How I Spent The First 3 Months Of My Relationship Making Sure It Would Last
From the moment your eyes met to the perfect dress you spent hours picking out, there's no doubt the first three months of any relationship are the best.
When you first start dating someone, there's an overwhelming sensation of “new” in the air. You're taking in the smell of his cologne and what it feels like to wear his sweatshirt to sleep for the first time.
But most importantly, it symbolizes accepting the love we all deserve.
Especially if it's the type of relationship with someone you can tell is just different and is ready to step up to the plate as your confidant and best friend.
Throughout my single years, I stayed positive and learned the meaning of self-love and how it's the only path to lasting, healthy relationships.
And through encouraging myself to accept the love I believe I deserve, these past three months have changed my life.
Actually listening to my boyfriend's words and accepting his compliments have brought me a new sense of joy that friends and co-workers just aren't able to provide.
I stand a bit taller and my steps are bolder, not because I didn't have any self-confidence before, but because the moment I realized someone saw the exact value in me that I see in myself, I felt special.
For the first time in years, I found someone who saw through my every insecurity. And not only can he see through them, but he also finds them intriguing and beautiful.
Although there are some days where I wonder, “How did I get so lucky?” or “Am I good enough to deserve this?" deep in my heart, I know he sees me for who I am and this allows me to feel more assured than I've ever been before.
Consequently, this experience taught me the first three months of any relationship undoubtedly set the tone for what's to come.
When a concrete foundation is set, it brings smiles, comfort and a strong sense of friendship to the pair.
And this love even changes our body chemistry.
According to Health.com, there's a reason we're so intrigued by this individual, to the point where we often make them our “number one” priority. Helen Fisher, PhD, stated,
That someone takes on special meaning to you and you focus on this individual because the dopamine system has been activated. It is what triggers very goal oriented behavior, where no one else matters but your new partner.
Although an increased amount of dopamine in the brain can occur during both a new and seasoned relationship, it's the significant change of the increased amount of dopamine that occurs in the first few months that leaves us with this new feeling of excitement and spontaneity.
The first three months of a relationship are statistically proven to improve how your body feels and how your brain reacts to life's daily occurrences.
It's like, all of a sudden, you have a sense of boosted energy — the perfect excuse to head out on a Tuesday night and a reason to look forward to starting a new day.
Maybe you and your SO delve into a healthy fitness routine or your calendar is quickly filled with plans consisting of meeting the friends of your SO, which, in turn, become your friends.
Basically, the benefits go way beyond the surface of romantic dates and “good morning” texts.
According to Medical Daily,
It's believed romantic gestures such as cuddling, hugging or kissing could boost oxytocin levels in the body, which help enhance social bonding between individuals.
It's these chemical changes within our bodies, combined with daily displays of unconditional love and support that make the first three months of any relationship so incredibly unique.
Whether you're in a new relationship and are enjoying your fresh, new start or you're in a seasoned relationship and can remember just how exciting the prospect of this new relationship was to you, there's no doubt this is a time you'll always look back on and cherish.
After all, each person we let into our lives represents a part of who we are, and when we meet someone with the same goals as us, it's like looking into a mirror with someone who serves as an inspiration and support for your every dream, wish and goal.
