Why Being The Bad Boy Pays Off
Over the last 50 years, the image of the bad boy and those who define it has undergone a drastic transformation. But what has not changed? Women are still drawn to them, and men still want to be them. From the era of Frank Sinatra and Sammy Davis, to the likes of Kanye West and Jay-Z, the presence of the bad boy has remained the same: the appeal of a man set on following his passions, regardless of what societal forces attempt to confine him, while demonstrating bold confidence.
A major part of his appeal is the independence that allows him to take or leave the attention of even the most desirable woman. That turns the tables and makes him desirable. Why? Because with this indifference, he becomes a de facto prize through women ramping up their competitive side to try to rope him.
Being a bad boy is not just exhibiting the stereotypical traits–being mean, rude, dishonest, or ungentlemanly. With a general indifference the bad boy is able to captivate. Things that matter to other people don’t seem to affect him at all.
Glorified by Hollywood and highly sought after in the music industry, bad boys engage an unmistakable allure. From Johnny Depp to Curt Kobain, and from James Dean to Diddy, these men have capitalized a few traits that we could all learn from.
Being A Man’s Man
Accept your flaws and imperfections and focus on being better. No one is perfect, and some people will not like you, it is simple as that. This is the most important step and concept to understand, and once you have mastered it, girls will come to you naturally.
Men all over the world lose sight of themselves, and put other people above them. They go around trying to pleas others , making sure they are happy, even if it will cause themselves pain. Eventually, they will let others rule their lives and end up becoming frustrated. Nice guys tend to always make the happiness of others a greater priority than their own.
Need the Approval of No One
We’ve elaborated enough points to fully confirm: nice guys finish dead last. Their tendency to wait for a sign of approval comes off as passive and weak. Never ask permission to do something (especially with women) and handle objections as they come. Stop looking to others to determine if you are acting “right.” Do what you have to do when necessary.
Decisiveness & Bold Leadership
Exuding the traits of a natural born leader will allow you to command the confidence you need to attract the important things in life. One should always take into account Elite’s maxim: Showing that you need nothing is how you attract everything. It is not about being selfish, but rather taking care of your life on your own.
Be strong physically, but primarily emotionally. As a man, you must be the pillar of strength that your family, friends, and especially women can lean on. Let go of the need to whine, complain or moan. Wherever life takes you, one thing is for certain: there will always be those that do nothing but complain about the things that happen to them. People have this attraction to playing the victim to gain attention from others. Realize: the only way to change the world for your betterment is to act on changing it, not awaiting Change’s arrival.
Love Like A Man
Bad boys comprehend their own self worth. Bad boys reject the idea of ever settling for less than what they deserve. The bad boy always understands two critical tenets in life: your opinion about yourself is above the opinion of others, and no one in the world is above you. It all comes down to having self-respect, and you must earn your own self-respect before you can expect others, especially girls, to respect you.
Be honest with others, especially yourself.
”Lez-be-honest”: most men shroud their feelings in awkward antics and attempts to dissuade themselves from their natural feelings. If a “bad” boy likes a girl, he will show her without a doubt in his mind; while if a nice guy likes a girl, he tends to hide his interest. The nice guy tries to be the girl’s friend rather than making her his girlfriend. Girls know when guys like them, and bad boys have no problem showing it.
Suffice to say: don’t be the push over, be a bad boy.