Through our courses of travel and dating fine women across the globe we have come to realize that, as with most things in life, there are brownie points one can earn with women. We aren’t referencing the easy women that will jump your bones upon recognition of your superior status as an Elite member at this time. We’re talking about the women that are going to play hard to get and make you work for the “ultimate prize.”

The preferences of each woman varies, but our list is comprehensive enough that it is almost certain to include the vast majority of brownie points you need to conquer before you introduce her to what Elite loving really entails. Gentlemen, remember you need at least 25 points for her to give it up. Any combination of these points should suffice for the purpose at hand.

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If you’re ever in a position where you haven’t closed the deal but believe you’ve attempted every possibility, cross-reference our list.  There might be 1 or 2 more things you overlooked that could aid in your success. Keep in mind that due to the nature of this point system one can negate progress by allowing any of these points to go wrong. Unfortunately, with a poor approach you might just lose as much as you gain.

First Date, 2 points

You must nail your first date like a charm. The restaurant must provide a divine culinary experience that she adores. Make sure to have two glasses of champagne on the table awaiting your arrival at the table. Order together and be chivalrous enough to place her order for her—it makes the bond stronger. Dress to impress of course, and approach her a level of charm only an Elite man could provide. For once, let her do most of the talking and just listen.

You could lose these two points at the drop of a dime with the incorrect rebuttal or trying to test the waters too soon, so tread carefully.

Correct Amount Of Communication, 3 points

Communication is everything over here. Not only do you have be attentive to her words, but you also must remember to remain in her mind by maintaining the right amount of communication. You don’t want to burden her or seem needy by texting and calling too often, but you also don’t want her to believe she holds no relevance in your life. Discern an appropriate level of communication from her cues (if she is terse during conversation, you have gone too far) and hit the correct balance. She will judge you heavily on this.

The Good Guy Trait, 4 points

Girls love bad boys, but preferably they want a bad boy with good guy traits within him. They have all been hurt by bad boys one too many times and are searching for a man with an appropriate balance of sensitivity and masculinity. Thus, you must show her some type of good traits. Showing selflessness and a love for children will sweep her off her feet.

Social Media Presence, 2 points

92% of adults have Facebook. If she’s one of those 8% that doesn’t, that’s a red flag. Of course she is going to look into your social media presence and see what you tweet about, what you post on Facebook, and what type of pictures you’re tagged in. The last thing she wants to see is a picture of you with a swarm of fashion students surrounding you.

Cooking, 3 points

She will LOVE this one. Too many men can’t cook, and while many women have accepted this idea, it will completely delight and surprise her to know that you can provide a meal in addition to your other extraordinary talents. If you can’t cook, maybe try to order the food and re-plate it. It’ll at least make your kitchen look messy. She will love the effort and it’s an automatic 3 points.

Surprise, 5 points

Send her flowers to the office, get tickets to her favorite show, or even buy her a new pair of Louboutins. Women love surprises and unfortunately men don’t provide them often. Anything that throws her off guard or is spontaneous will have her thinking about you all day long. Women love excitement and fear complacency and stagnation in a relationship.

Watching Notebook, 1 point

Yes, we all hate chick flicks, but here is where we might have to let our guard down a little. Let her choose the movie you two watch. It will either be “The Notebook” or “The Time Travelers Wife”. If you can sit through this without falling asleep, easy 1 point.

Proper amount of restraint, 3 points

This is one is crucial. As an Elite gentleman you must maintain the proper amount of restraint when it comes to making your first move. You can’t be over-aggressive and you also can’t come off as shy. It would be prudent to subtly coax her into action instead of submitting to your carnal urges and attempting to grope her breasts. You don’t want to seem like your desperate for sex—it’s a huge turn off.

Coexistence, 4 points

Proceed with caution regarding this one. The point value is extremely high and you are looking for the seal of approval from her friends on this one. She is going to show you off to her friends, which will spark their jealousy and place you under harsh scrutiny. You must impress her friends and be so charming that they can’t express any gripes with your behavior.

Work Ethic, 4 points

No woman ever wants a man that lacks ambition or has a boring job. She is looking for the Elite alpha male that has entrepreneurial values and is inches away from being a CEO. Show her your office and show her how hard you really work. She will love it and this will escalate your point value to high levels, providing you the opportunity to show just how hard you can work HER.

Elite.