Carrying Her Baggage: Can You Handle The Weight?
No one is perfect. We have all done some things (or people) that we aren't proud of. Thankfully, no one else will ever know- unless, that is, if you tell them. Which brings me to the mistake that most fresh new couples make: they tell each other everything.
Sure, you have just met this great new person and you want to share everything with them. You want to tell them about your preteen Christmases, your high school sweethearts, and all those crazy all-nighters that you pulled in college hyped up on Adderall and 5-hour energy.
And that's just fantastic. But then you let slip that time that you had that 3-way with a bucktoothed hooker and Sally from around the block. Then, for some mysterious reason, your relationship goes to shit. Who would've known?
Some things are simply better kept buried. Do you want to know that your girlfriend was fucked by her college football team- not a player, but the team? Do you really want to hear about the time she got Eiffel towered by two Euro-club-heads in Germany? Nein!
The real issue arises when your partner makes the mistake of letting such sensitive and, albeit the perfect plot for the porno you planned on shooting sometime in the future, irrelevant information leak. Now that you know she is- or technically, was- a dirty, dirty little whore, what do you do next?
The real question is: What can you do next? Can you let it go? Or will it sit in the back of your mind in slumber waiting to be awoken the next time you and your better half have a silly spat? Will you be able to look at her the same way? Or will the reel of her being railed by each and every one of the 53 dicks she's ridden be on permanent replay in your head?
You are the only person that has the answer- and you better answer truthfully. Don't lie to yourself and be forced to come to the realization that you don't see her the same way any more two years down the road. Sometimes you simply can't get over finding out certain things about a person. Usually, the more you care for that person, the harder it will be to overlook all of the evils lurking in their past.
This is why I highly recommend keeping the evils from the past in the past. The love of your life doesn't need to know that you had three abortions by the time you were 16. She doesn't need to know that you've slept with more women than you care to count.
Call it lying if you want; I call it withholding incriminating and potentially destructive information. Do good by the one you love- lie, lie, and lie.
Paul Hudson | Elite.