Relationships

The Truth Behind The 'It Girl'

by Evelyn Pelczar

The media has made it hard for a woman to be real. We try to identify with models/video vixens that receive all the glamor and attention that they aspire to achieve one day.

Beyoncé Knowles has made every woman think she is not complete if she does not look like her. It is absurd seeing so many women with low confidence because they have not received Queen B’s approval. The woman who tries to look flawless 24/7 is usually full of flaws the she works so hard to cover up.

The “It” girl is constantly trying to impress peers and compare herself to them. Our friends naturally play a huge role in our lives. We commonly look at peer pressure as something that only faces young people. Truthfully, it’s something we all have to deal with, regardless of our age. We all want to fit in and get along with those around us.

No one woke up this morning and said, “I really hope I don’t fit in or make friends today!” Women hunger for a sense of connection to what is perceived as being popular. There’s nothing wrong with that. The issue is when we compromise who we are in order to be approved of by people.

Fake hair, fake nails, 6-inch heels, and more makeup than Ronald McDonald — doesn’t really scream self-confidence. You can’t ask for others to be real when you’re not completely real with yourself.

Self esteem isn’t garnered from being a dolled up Barbie that posts half naked pictures on Instagram hoping to obtain infinite likes, comments and general attention.

Fitting in and being accepted is never worth compromising who you are or what you stand for. Many times this is easier said than done, but individuality is attained with time, experience and many lessons along the way.

Trice Prince | Elite.