Guys, Here's How To Land A One-Night Stand
One-night stands are all in good fun. Personally, I like them because you take a girl from “hello” to sex within a couple of hours, and this really confirms your confidence in your game. Truth is, one-night stands benefit those involved because it basically gives two people the opportunity to fulfill their primal urges without any drama or strings attached.
Does It Happen Often?
A study in 2009 revealed that only three-percent of women would agree to go home with an average guy, while only eight-percent agreed to go home with a very attractive guy. If you'd read the actual study, you would see that the dudes trying to score were actually investigators who probably had no game and made poor or awkward attempts at landing women.
A more recent study, which sounds really good to us men, found that 20-percent of women admitted to having a one-night stand, while another 50-percent said they would be willing to. Considering that most of the men reading this are good-looking and lucky at the same time, these studies basically give us at least a one in five chance of landing one of these women. Plus, if you've got game, that should increase your chances, and if you want to go the whole nine yards, read the entirety of the article.
High Chance Locations
Sure, one-night stands are sparked at bars and on the club scene, but what about something different? If you've seen “Wedding Crashers,” then you probably know that weddings are another prime location for one-night stands. Women tend to get overly emotional witnessing the ultimate testament of love, and their hormones are raging; so, it's only a matter of “Hi, I'm a guy and I'm here to get things going.”
Other potential places to land a one-night stand would be holiday parties, birthday parties (go for the birthday girl) and even taking advantage of time, like in the wake of a tragedy, which makes women seize the moment and sleep with some random guy.
High Chance Girls
If you go out looking for a one-night stand, you should play the night a bit differently than you normally do. Instead of going straight for the absolute hottest chick, try going for her “almost as attractive” friends. Considering they're almost as attractive means they must be pretty damn hot. Plus, this gets the really hot one intrigued as to why you're not going for her. When friend you're after sees this, she'll feel even more confident and want to lock it down, making your game even easier.
Alternatively, you can scan the room for direct potential candidates, as girls who are down for whatever are usually putting in the effort to get noticed. So, look for the ones that are obviously out to have fun, doing some dirty dancing, laughing loudly, and checking out the room for some guy looking their way – that sort of stuff.
Considering that you want to sleep with this girl in a couple of hours, your first impression must be pristine. So, leave the cheesy lines and lame jokes for another time. Approach her with confidence and start making conversation. It's important to exude confidence, which will quickly get you in charge of the situation. Once in charge, make sure you do everything in your power to make her feel good.
This includes asking the right questions to give the impression that you're interested and also making appropriate comments. Make her feel that you are exactly what she wants and make her yearn for it. The whole point of being in control means that, eventually, she'll do what you want (go home with you). Let's be honest, if you let her take control, she's not going to ask you to come back to her place.
Also, honesty can save you from a lot of drama, so make sure you thrown in a subtle “I don't really have time for relationships. I like being single.”
When going for the one-night stand, it's absolutely paramount to read her body language. The problem here is that she won't tell you what she thinks about you, so if she thinks that you suck, you won't know it unless you read her subconscious signs. Considering that most women love the extra attention you're giving them, you can basically love a whole night trying to spit game at someone who has zero intentions of ending up with you at the end of the night.
So, if she's close to you and her body is open towards you, it's good. If she seems reserved, closed off and is leaning away from you, that's a bad sign. Is she looking at your face while you're talking? Does she seem genuinely interested? Those are good signs that she's interested. If she's checking out her phone or looking around the room, that likely means she's completely bored. Reading her body language can make the difference between getting laid and wanking off. Don't waste time with chicks that aren't down for it.
Taking It To The Next Level
Okay, if things are looking good, it's time to start making some serious moves. Move closer to her, start touching her and eventually lean in for a kiss. Don't go all the way; make her work for that little extra lean. Grind on the dance floor, start some heavy make out sessions, and basically do whatever you need to get her juices flowing.
When You Know For sure
A woman once told me that you should never ask the girl to go straight from wherever you are to your place or hers, but instead, you should ask to go to a quite place like a lounge, or place where just the two of you can grab a bite to eat. This is probably one of the best pieces of advice I ever received on this subject of a one-night stand because it brings you one step closer to going home with her, while providing that little comfort zone making sure to not rush it and turn her off. From there, it's only a matter of time (a lot of touching and making out) until you eventually get to the place where the magic happens.
The Grand Finale
Ideally, you should NEVER go to your place. This creates all sorts of complications, especially if you didn't tell her that you're not looking to get involved after this night. Plus, who wants a sleeper that takes forever to wake up and leave the next day? Her place will also make her feel much more comfortable, allowing you to actually have a good time.
Start things the moment you enter through the door. This is what you came for, so there's no point in wasting time. No need to talk about useless stuff, just tell her how sexy she is and how much she's turning you on.
When the time for business comes, use a condom (obviously), and do everything in your power to please the woman before you bust your nut. Why? Well, if she likes it enough, this can easily turn into a f*ck buddy relationship. What guy doesn't want that?
Also, I'd try to keep the sex to a fair standard, meaning no kinky stuff (anal, spanking, choking, or whatever else is in your twisted head) unless she specifically asks for it.
You can play this in a number of ways, but ideally, you should just tell her that you had a great time and bust out. Now, if she somehow gives you her number, adds you on Facebook, or whatever, you can play this even better. Don't say you're going to call her. If she asks you to call her, say, “That could be fun,” but never agree to anything.
If you want a chance at a f*ck buddy relationship, or even the odd booty call, send her a text message or some other form of message the next day saying that you had an amazing time and she should feel free to contact you if she wants to do it again. This way, you put the whole thing on her. You've got no more obligations, and if more sex is to come from it, I don't think you're going to hate it.
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