Unless you plan on running wild shagging all of the world’s women for the rest of your life, I’m sure someday you would like to settle down and grow old with Mrs.Right. While it’s easy to enter and begin a relationship with a suitable partner, maintaining a relationship is an entirely different ball game.
We see it all of the time, the guy that has a new girlfriend every three weeks who to most men seems to be a playboy, but to women he appears unstable. I was this guy for a long time and then one day my grand father, who has been happily married for over 40 years and is probably sick of meeting my new girlfriends stopped me asked “Who knows more about women; the guy that spends one year with ten different women or the guy that spends ten years with one woman?”
I took some time to ponder the question and then it hit me: I knew how to get the girl, I knew how to sleep with the girl and I knew how to get the girl to desire a relationship with me but, I had no idea how to hold onto the girl for an extended period of time.
If I ever wanted to combat my nature to lose interest in someone after just a few short weeks, I had to take some time to figure out what has to be done in order for me to make a relationship work.
Liar Liar Pants On Fire
Almost every lie you tell will come back and bite you in the ass eventually, and I’m sure that if you are reading this you are old enough to have experienced this first hand on many occasions. Be honest with yourself and be honest with your partner no matter what you may feel the consequences are, because the truth always finds it’s way of rising to the surface.
It saves you the stress of remembering and covering up your lies, along with those “YOU’RE BUSTED” deer in the headlights moments all compulsive liars have to suffer through all of the time.
I, for example love older women and can remember long ago when I would constantly lie to older women about my actual age. Then I would invite them to my “19th birthday party” forgetting that I told them that I was twenty six. Not to mention the trillions of excuses I made up for why I didn’t want to hang out with them at a bar; I always ended up getting caught and it ruined the relationship I was in.
Make honesty a pivotal point in your relationship and that is one less thing you will have to stress over; allowing you the freedom to express yourself openly and freely to your partner. Not only does this make your partner feel comfortable trusting you, it also gives them a clear understanding of who you are.
Cheating Is Easy
If a small part of our genetic make up didn’t desire loyalty, I don’t believe the concept of relationships would have ever been in existence. And we all know that when you enter a relationship other people find you a lot more attractive.
The problem is a lot of men and women get filled with this new self esteem because of the “relationship effect” and they then begin committing unfaithful acts against their partner; which only leaves them sad and lonely once again, waiting to start all over with someone new.
Cheating is easy if you’re in a relationship, as you will find three times as many women waiting to spread their legs than you ever noticed before as soon as you enter a relationship.
What is the point of becoming exclusive if you are just going to cheat? That is like submitting resumes and applying for jobs but never showing up when you are called for interviews. It’s a big waste of time and in the end, you just lower the value of your stock. Who is going to trust and build something real with someone that has been known to be unfaithful? Think about it.
Anyone can cheat but few can remain committed and faithful throughout the test of time. Are you going to be a follower or a leader?
Cheer Them On
Thinking about quitting your job and starting your own business? What would make you feel better than someone in your corner cheering you on and encouraging you to do so? What is a musician without fans? What is a boxer without his cut man? Nothing feels like knowing someone believes in you and supports everything you do.
Encourage and support your partner as much as you can; challenge him or her to be more ambitious and let them know that whether they succeed or fail, you will be there to lift them back up. Compliment your partner, tell them they’re smart, explain to them all the potential you see lurking underneath the surface and let them know you believe they can overcome any obstacle put in front of them.
The world can be a cold place and people without a team pushing them rarely if ever move on forward in life. Be this for your partner; it provides them a necessary security and level of toughness he or she will constantly utilize to get through anything.
2012 relationships just don’t seem to be working out they way they used to, but that doesn’t mean that can’t be changed. Many of us wouldn’t be here today hadn’t it been for relationships because relationships are one of the fundamental principles that humans were built upon. Never give up hope and remember that anything you work consistently and hard for, you will achieve.
Eddie Fews | Elite.
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