The art of picking up women is a skill that most men like to pretend they are experts at. Unfortunately, men are relatively clueless of a woman’s signs. It would usually take a woman to dropping her panties in front of a man for him to realize that he has the green light.
Unfortunately, men are not always afforded this opportunity by women who are interested in them. To help all you men see clearly through the subtle gestures, here are some clear cut signs that she is definitely into you:
8. She calls you a player
Strange right? Most guys would assume that if a girl says “you’re such a player” that she is probably not interested. But this is just one of those counter-intuitive things you figure out with enough time talking to women.
If a woman calls you a player, two things have already been accomplished. The first is that she has become comfortable enough around you to say that sort of thing. And the second, is that she views you as the sort of guy who is used to talking to women.
If a woman ever makes this sort of statement, simply view it as a “shit test” and go on with the conversation as usual. DO NOT defend yourself or try to prove to her that you aren’t. In fact, the best response is to just smile and say “Is it that obvious?” and proceed with the conversation as if it was never said.
7. She is laughing at your jokes, even when they’re not funny
If a girl is being the perfect audience, laughing on cue, egging you on to talk more, and has a big smiled plastered across her face the entire time you’re talking it is a pretty clear indication that she’s enjoying your company.
When we laugh at someone we unconsciously are saying “I like you. And I’m listening to what you’re saying.” And if she is going out of her way to make sure that she’s laughing … she is also going out of her way to encourage you to keep talking.
Just be careful not to confuse true laughter with an “oh my god get me out of here” grin or a nervous giggle.
6. She tells you to take a sip of her drink
This one has been an almost 100% indicator for me over the years that a woman was ready to be kissed.
If you’re at a bar talking to a woman, and she hands you her drink and says something like “Try my drink.” Or if she encourages you in any way to take a sip of her drink, she is unconsciously telling you that she is comfortable with you on a more intimate level.
This is a great “little known” how to tell if a girl likes you.
5. She asks you if you have a girlfriend or pries for info
When a woman is around a man that she is becoming attracted to, she will almost always try to find out if he has a girlfriend. Most women will flat out ask.
If she doesn’t flat out ask, she’ll most likely ask questions that pry for the information like “Who do you live with?” Or if you just told a story about going on vacation or to a concert, she’ll say “Who did you go with?”
If a woman has no interest in you whatsoever, she very rarely will care whether or not you have a girlfriend.
4. She “futures” you
An interested woman is wide open for any future plans with you.
In fact, she will often say something like, “Oh, you like bowling, too? We should do that some time.”
When she’s operating in this mode, make no mistake about it — she wants you to ask her out.
3. She’s jealous of other women you talk to
She has the green-eyed monster on her back.
An interested woman will watch her competition like a hawk (and with talons bared).
So if you notice her steaming just because you’re joking around with other women, you can be sure that she wants you to be more than just her friend.
2. She has all the right moves
A lot of people say that bodies can’t lie. Nature has programmed humans with a complex set of non-verbal flirting signals that just flow freely when people are interested in someone. These range from the widening of the iris when looking at the object of desire to more overt displays, such as smiling or touching.
Here are a few body language cues to watch out for:
• She points in your direction with her leg, foot or shoulders.
• She leans toward you while talking.
• She plays with or tosses her hair.
• She fidgets with a piece of jewelry (like an earring) or strokes the stem of her glass.
• She keeps her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks.
• She mirrors your body movements (for example, if you put your hand on the table, she quickly does the same).
• She smiles when you check her out.
If you become aware of a cluster of these signals, you can almost be sure that she’s giving you the green light for romance.
1. She’s on pins and needles
If she’s really interested, she’ll be as nervous as a cat around you, especially if you’re clueless about reading her signals.
Of course, she could be just a normally shy person, so watch how she interacts with others.
If she’s only fidgety around you, then she’s probably thinking romance.