How She Plays Hard To Get

How She Plays Hard To Get
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It would be an understatement to claim that women have over a hundred thoughts running through their heads when they meet a guy, typically frivolous worries ranging from “how does my hair look” to “I hope this push-up bra is working.” The most important debate in her mind is deciding whether or not to play hard to get. Ladies, your approach will depend on the situation at hand. Thus, it would be prudent to have mastered the art of playing hard to be adequately prepared when situations necessitate its employment.

Please do keep in mind that this tactic isn’t for all. It takes a sophisticated, intelligent woman to pull this off successfully without simply frustrating the suitor.

One must be certain not to confuse being coy with being an obnoxious prude. Playing hard to get is not synonymous with being rude or coming off as bitchy. The purpose of employing this method is to intrigue the target male, garnering and maintaining his interest thereafter. If you can find the perfect balance between displaying your interest and being slightly ambiguous then playing hard to get will work for you. At the end of the day, you want him to finish your conversation or night out contemplating a future with you.

Preserving this balance while texting your potential beau can cause undue stress on your life if you’re apt to overanalyze each individual message. The best approach is to avoid the temptation to submit each message to unnecessary scrutiny and simply engage in a normal conversation. Many associate playing hard to get with ignoring texts and are unnecessarily anxious about minute details about how soon to text and which party should initiate conversation. While you might believe that giving off the appearance of being too busy to respond is the best approach, you’re simply being unnecessarily rude. Consider the situation from your perspective, if your male interest frequently ignored your messages you would be dismayed and assume that he was uninterested.

Resist the urge to approach the conversation as if it was some game of image manipulation. Respond at your leisure; if you’re free to respond, do so. If you’re unavailable, respond once you have the time to. Do not concern yourself with the frequency of each party’s responses. If you’re assuming you’re responding too frequently you should occupy yourself with more pressing matters. Read a book, catch up on world news, or learn something for God’s sake. This boy should not be the center of your universe. When extreme lapses of time pass between your responses you are solely doing yourself a disservice and turning away a possible love interest.

Once conversation has been initiated, make efforts to keep things flowing by avoiding responses that are simply short answers. If he asks what you are currently up to right now, do not simply reply “Nm, you?” Also do not make him aware of the irrelevant details of your day, such as revealing that you’re getting a facial or just hanging around the house with your mother. Provide something that’s exciting or enticing to garner his interest and keep the conversation alive. Keep things simple and stay true to yourself; that is the best method of action.

In person, you must have a different approach to the utilization of this method. Despite your inclination to have a well thought out strategic approach to this conversation, it is best to remain true to yourself. Trying to construct an image in person will have your conveying yourself as fraudulent and leave you subject to an unnecessary slew of pitfalls.

When you’re talking in person he can read your emotions through your facial expressions and tone of voice, so if you’re being insincere, it’ll be obvious—unless you can pull off an Academy Award winning performance on the spot. Typically, you should await your suitor’s approach instead of pursuing him. You don’t want to come off as too shy, but you also do not want to appear to be overly aggressive.

If you make eye contact on a night out, subtly smile at him; this should suffice as being inviting enough to compel him to approach. If he doesn’t make a move do not be dismayed and result to catty techniques to draw his attention. If you think hooking up with his closest companion will increase his interest, you’re dead wrong.

Always keep in mind that confidence is key. If you’re being coy and seem unsure of yourself you will likely turn him off. If you lack the confidence to properly employ this method, avoid utilizing it. There are many other ways to provoke a man’s interest. For the rest of the girls out there, go ahead and purchase that body-con dress you were considering from Asos, have a great tan, and flash that flirtatious smile every chance you get. You’re trying to have him remember and lust after you, not have you the second he wants you.

Amanda Perez | Elite Daily

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