Love Is Oblivious

Love Is Oblivious
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Love is simply profound and profoundly simple. Love is not complicated; people in love are complex. I can remember my first love as if she was my only one. She was perfect — we were perfect together, in my head. Since our virtual break-up, I have blamed her for every subsequent failure in my love life.

I mean, how dare she do this to me? I was her Halle and she was my Berry. Much like the fantasy of my story, you embrace the fallacies of what love has done for and to you.

As human beings, we frequently make the declaration that we should copy our success and avoid the failure of our past experiences.

Greater minds have claimed that there is no failure in love and that it proves so abundant and infinite, that it is merely the expectation that we have of one another, while in love, that leads us to believe it can fail. Even so, the system of Love is perfect, only those who attempt to control it crash into complications.

“Love is a lot of things but what it is not is uncertain” – Dr. Maya Angelou

Love is a place where you can give; love is not a place for evenly measured exchange — not a give and take. There is a difference. Love is not something that you do, but something that you are. Love is the institution that holds the parties involved to a higher standard – or standards at all.

Love is more than a feeling, as feelings change constantly. Love is consistent and has no rules; therefore, they cannot be broken. Man did not create love; therefore, he himself has no authority over it. The moment we surrender to love as a part of nature, a part of a higher consciousness, the sooner we will be able to grasp the truth of it.

This thing called love — how often is this word abused in our vocabulary, saturating the true meaning for one of nature’s most fluid gifts? Love does not ask, it does not boast, it does not take and it surely does not blame. Love is the opposing thoughts of the EGO.

The opposite of love, is not hate, but something far fiercer: FEAR. Most of us fear Love, but love is what holds the key to our freedom from fear. This very cycle is why we see love for what it is not and not for what it truly is. Life has given us the gift of love and no man is therefore exempted.

“Life has given us the gift of love and no man is therefore exempt” – Scripture

One of the most effective expressions for love is physical touch, as it is so easily administered. This may suffice temporarily, but there is more to love than what we can offer each other. I choose not to offer my love to you with the assumption that the love you have is not enough.

I will, however, share my love with you, having no expectation of any reciprocity, fully aware of the manifestation the act of love brings. Awakening from that deception shows me that my love should complement my life, not supplement yours. I want to merge my love, not merchant it.

There is a widely held belief that when a man and woman unite, they should be 50/50. This subtly suggests that my partner is my better half. This concept has created an illusion that beings are capable of being a better half to others and incomplete themselves.

If you are whole then there is no need for a better half. If you are incomplete, why relinquish the vulnerable half to someone who is not whole? This expectation of love from your partner has left many feeling rejected from the false projection. Yes, you should have standards; however, the moment you give your power to something that is not perfectly sound, you should acknowledge that the return will always be imperfect.

If I were to become a complete, unique, individual, set to merge with my partner who is also the same, then she does not complete me, but complements me. And if by chance she is not able to perform her duties, I am still complete without depending on her half. Therefore, any shortcomings are an opportunity for support, not sacrifice, which can ultimately lead to suffering.

Our biggest fear is being rejected. The most significant partner in love should be you. Once that love relationship is established and secure, you can invite that special someone to share the celebration. If you search for love from a place where love is unknown and has never been, chances are love is not present but something else.

“Love simply so others can simply love you” – Jamel Davenport

Jamel Davenport | Elite. 

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