Men Confess Why They Keep Their Guards Up In Relationships For So Long
Men get a bad rap as being the less emotionally intelligent sex, and it’s super common to hear a woman make statements like, “He’s emotionally unavailable.”
While this reputation around men is a little unfair, what we’re getting at when we say you’re emotionally unavailable is, sometimes, guys, it’s just hard to get a read on you. Why are you keeping your guard up so much in your relationships?
Reddit user KatCole7 took to the internet to pose the question, “Guys who haven’t yet let their guard down in a relationship, what are you waiting for?”
Their responses are not what I expected, and mainly have one thing in common… they’re afraid.
Here are some of their responses:
They’re afraid of what you’ll think about them.
He is waiting to see if you are someone he can show weakness to without it ruining the relationship dynamic.
Most young women are not, at all, mature enough for that, so its likely he's had some bad experiences with opening up to women in the past.
They’re afraid it will cause you to break up.
Don't really want to deal with heart break. Circumstances mean that the likelihood of a breakup due to circumstances is high in the future unless someone has a change in values or makes a fairly large sacrifice for prospects to their field. I just enjoy it while it's happening.
Same here. I'm scared of breaking up with her. It would kill me if she had her heart broken. I know it's not good to think that we will break up but anything can happen. I am looking for work, if I get a good job offer out of state I might have to leave. She's here with her mom and already has an established career for almost 20 years.
I've learned this the hard way in my past relationships and now have vowed to be as stoic as possible in future relationships regardless of what the girl says about wanting to be there for me. The truth hurts but sometimes you just have to accept it
Women have acted disgusted in reaction to their emotions.
The trick is to keep it all inside until you die.
I cried in front of a girlfriend one and she just acted awkward and disgusted. Hurt a lot after all the effort it took to open up. I'd rather just not deal with that.
They’ve been hurt in the past for opening up.
I have yet to date a woman who will accept me, be kind and respectful to me, once I've shown human weakness. I haven't dated anyone in 5 years because it isn't worth it if all I get is abuse.
Ive learned not to because girls have left me as soon as i let my guard down in the past.
i usually let it down, just because it is better for the friendship aspect. i am usually without guard. in some cases girls have completely not cared about me.
the opposite is true, too, so who knows.
The risk isn’t worth the reward.
Because in the end we will be punished for it.
Come on, guys! We can’t all be bad!
You call me any day you want and bear your sweet, sweet souls to me. I’ve got your back.
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