Men Reveal Why They Said ‘I Love You' To Their GF When They Didn't Mean It
Listen, I'm not here to make anyone feel like a jerk for making mistakes.
The big “L word” is a confusing, powerful thing, and most of us are guilty of using those words incorrectly and at the wrong times. It's one of those “with great power comes great responsibility” kind of deals.
However, no one can deny how shitty of a situation it is to find out someone who told you they loved you, well, doesn't actually love you.
Luckily, there is a place for likeminded people to express shared experiences on this kind of thing, and that place, my friends, is the internet.
A bunch of men took to Reddit to explain the times they said “I love you,” when what they really meant to say was “Um… erm… like… IDK… LOL…”
These poor guys' messages just got lost in translation.
I didn't know how to say "I care for you".
My ex told me he loved me because he thought he did, but then he wasn't sure if he actually did but didn't stop saying it because he didn't want to hurt my feelings by telling me he wasn't sure. He said, "Its really hard to stop saying I love you once you've started saying it."
I said "I care for you" and didn't mean it. Well, I did mean it, but what I really wanted to say was "I love you" but I couldn't say that.
I told someone I loved her because I thought I did, but in retrospect I think I was just very lonely and in a bad mental space. In reality I knew very little about her and just projected that which I loved on to her.
Others just flat-out admitted they were morons and panicked.
I was an idiot in high school, that's why.
I did once, in high school. It just kind of slipped, so I thought I meant it, and then I just kept going with it.
These guys felt they were stuck in a situation and didn't have, like, a choice, I guess?
Not my current S.O. but one of my first girlfriends and I were riding a bus through the city and some crazy old drugged up gent wouldn't leave us alone until we told eachother we loved eachother. He was obviously in a dark place and wanted to see that there was still love in the world, so it was more for his benefit than hers
Was not used to the physical aspects of a relationship and felt pressured by myself to prove to her that I had just as much affection for her since I'm poor at verbal communication and I assumed from how much affection I got from her that she felt the same way.
Said it, broke up a month later because it had the adverse effect.
Don't say it if you don't mean it.
when I was younger I was guilty of doing this. She sprung it on me after a few months of dating and while I cared for her I didn't love her. I thought I'd eventually get there and when I didn't, things ended quite abruptly.
And then, like in any group of guys, there's at least ONE asshole.
I told my ex gf that I loved her so we could try anal sex. Holy poop condom batman. Would not try again.
Men: You can't live with them, and you can't trust them to get the important things right. That's what my mom always says, anyway.
Here's hoping you get it right next time, gents!
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