Relationships

What Your Myers-Briggs Type Says About Your Dating Style

by Candice Jalili
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To start this all off, if you haven't taken the Myers-Briggs types test, you should take it right here, right now. I'll wait.

OK, now that we're all on the same page here, HOW FREAKY ACCURATE IS IT?

I know you didn't read all of your results, though. We can all agree that's a bit too many words to read during your mid-day procrastination sesh. So I did you a solid and summarized all the juicy bits here for you.

Find your type in this list and see what YOU'RE like to date. Better yet, find your partner's type and see how he or she is. Even BETTER yet, find both! Seriously, the world is your oyster. Find everyone you know and tell me this isn't the most weirdly accurate thing ever.

INTJ ("The Architect")

You go about your quest for love as you would go about your quest for anything else in life: with careful thought and logical execution.

You crave a strong, deep relationship and rely on your trusty logic and intellect to know that you are keeping your partner satisfied both physically and emotionally.

You are not the one who will fall hard and fast in a passionate love affair. When it comes to your romantic life, your propensity toward frank honesty and subsequent disregard for the more sentimental flirtations that come along with the dating game are your biggest weaknesses.

INTP ("The Logician")

You are by no means forward when it comes to the dating game. You often wait for your partner to make the first move. But you let your natural intellect shine through in the way you flirt with plenty of clever wordplay and games.

You take relationships extremely seriously and are loyal to your partner. However, problems often arise in your relationship when you focus so heavily on logic that you forget your partner’s emotional needs.

ENTJ ("The Commander")

Like in all other realms of life, you are a GO GETTER when it comes to dating. You know what you want, and you’re in it to win it.

You are focused on the long term, which is a blessing when you see someone you see a future with, as you will do whatever it takes to keep that person happy.

This same quality can make you a bit ruthless when it comes to people you don’t quite see as a long-term partner, as you will abruptly end things the minute you realize it’s not realistically going anywhere.

With the people you do deem worthy of your sweet, sweet loving for the long term, your confidence, creativity and nonstop energy make you a fantastic lover both outside the bedroom and inside of it.

ENTP ("The Debater")

You crave a certain open-mindedness and creativity in your partners. A stagnant relationship is your worst nightmare, leaving you a rather demanding partner constantly pushing your partner to change and grow with you.

When you do find a partner who is capable of rising to the challenge, you are a wildly enthusiastic and wonderful partner to be with, determined to constantly grow and improve every realm of your relationship.

INFJ ("The Advocate")

Not one for casual flings, you take finding a romantic partner extremely seriously. You see the worth and value in taking your time to find the perfect person and refusing to settle for anything else.

“Picky” is something you’ve been called more than a few times, but, in the end, the people who stick around for you to be ready are worth the wait.

You are instantly put off by people who use manipulation or lies to try to expedite the process of winning you over. What you truly value is establishing a deep and genuine connection with another person. Once you find that with a person who shares your value of total authenticity, you make for one of the best partners with your warmth and your ability to keep things interesting by continuing to surprise your partner.

INFP ("The Mediator")

As a dreamy idealist, you believe in soulmates and spend a lot of your time fantasizing about that one perfect person out there for you. On the one hand, this belief leaves you disappointed as life is not, in fact, a fairytale, and no one person will ever be able to seamlessly fill the role of “soulmate.”

On the other hand, your genuine belief in the idea of relationships leaves you with a strong willful determination to do whatever it takes on your end to turn your ideas into reality.

ENFJ ("The Protagonist")

Simply put, you are a relationship person. Even in the dating phase, you are determined to prove your trustworthiness and dependability as a partner. Your constant need to check in with your partner to see how things are going is both a blessing and a curse.

On the one hand, it is a blessing as it helps to keep conflict to a minimum. On the other hand, it is a curse, as it makes you out to be needy. Your biggest weakness when it comes to relationships is ultimately your need to avoid conflict at whatever cost, even your own values.

Nevertheless, a partner who accepts you as you are and makes you feel comfortable and wanted will enjoy a very long, happy and passionate relationship.

ENFP ("The Campaigner")

This is mine, you guys! If you are anything like me, we share the advantage of pure irresistibility when it comes to attracting a partner (holler at a player!). Our warmth and charm make it easy for us to attract potential suitors.

But what we often don’t realize is that beneath our lighthearted flirtations and seemingly open facade, we harbor a great amount of depth and a firm belief in the concept of love. We are loyal partners who devote our hearts to our partners wholly. Long distance relationships are common for us, as we see distance as no match for our bountiful love.

Our biggest downfall is our tendency to focus on the potential rather than the present. We go all in with our relationships, and a failed attempt can leave us shattered for a very long time, wondering what we could have done differently.

ISTJ ("The Logistician")

While your shy demeanor can often make dating a bit of a challenge, when you do find the right person, you are a truly thoughtful and dedicated partner who will do whatever it takes to make sure your relationship is in it for the long haul.

You are the epitome of a family person, to the point where you actually find yourself preferring traditional gender roles within the home. You may not be the wildest lover, but you are a dependable one who will do whatever it takes to keep the one you love satisfied.

ISFJ ("The Defender")

Your homebody nature leaves you longing for a long-term relationship, which, given your painfully shy personality, may take a longer time to come across.

You take dating seriously and will only even consider relationships that you are sure have a real chance at lasting a lifetime. These dating prospects are best found in relationships that already have a sort of established familiarity, such as the workplace.

You harbor very deeply rooted and intense emotions for the one you love, even though they are often masked by your shy demeanor. The key for you is a relationship that has a balance of mutual appreciation, as your kindness is often taken advantage of.

ESTJ ("The Executive")

Relationships don’t really change for you as they progress, since you remain totally and completely yourself from the start. You are clear about who you are and what your goals are from the very beginning, and you stick to those statements until the very end.

There are obviously challenges as there are in any relationship, but you are willing to do whatever it takes to deal with them constructively, and that effort, more often than not, pays off for you.

Your weakness in relationships is your habit of addressing conflict head-on, often sacrificing the sort of tact that is meant to shield your partner’s feelings.

Nevertheless, you are a fantastic partner. You use your strong principles and self-confidence to consistently protect your partners.

ESFJ ("The Consul")

You don’t do casual flings. Marriage and family is the ultimate goal for you, and you never seem to lose sight of that. Knowing that you are loved and appreciated has a huge effect on your mood.

You are very organized in how your relationship develops, and you prefer to follow traditional dating rules (wait for him to call first, wait three days to make the first move, etc).

Even as your relationship develops sexually, you prefer to only partake in socially acceptable acts. That being said, the combination of your sensitivity and your focus on the physical world leave you a fantastic sexual partner.

ISTP ("The Virtuoso")

There's never a dull moment when it comes to a relationship with you. You alternate between cold detachment and fierce passion, and your tendency to live in the moment keeps your partners on their toes.

A relationship with you can never be forced, but, if given your space to roam free and be your truest self, you prove yourself to be a surprisingly great partner for life.

Your flighty nature makes it especially easy for you to walk away from a partner in the beginning stages of a relationship. You require a great amount of both physical and mental space and anybody trying to impede upon that is automatically out in your book. However, this is interesting because you, yourself, often try to change your partners as a means of making them live more in the moment.

Nothing terrifies you more than the feeling of being trapped. So if you are to be in a relationship, it must be the result of a natural progression.

ISFP ("The Adventurer")

Your mysterious nature makes you an exciting partner for even the most long-term relationships, as your partner will continue to find him or herself surprised by the secrets you keep. You are not the best long-term planner, but you manage to keep your partner satisfied with your warm and loving surprises.

You truly enjoy spending time with your partner from the bottom of your heart, and you go out of your way to do things that make him or her feel special. Although you would never be forthright about asking for it, you value the moments when your partner shows appreciation for you.

However, your constant need for fresh possibilities leaves you a little hesitant to committing to anything too serious. Anybody trying to force you into a serious relationship might as well kiss you goodbye right then and there.

ESTP ("The Entrepreneur")

Rather than spending your days counting down the seconds until you meet "The One," you prefer to live your life in the present.

Your love for the "now," coupled with your exciting and unpredictable nature, make you an absolutely thrilling partner to have. You enjoy conversation, but it is through real action that you really bond with your partner.

Sexually, you are open to anything and are always in sync with the needs of your partner. While many of your partners may disagree, for you, sex is really nothing more than a physical act.

Your short attention span along with your natural popularity with prospective suitors make it difficult for you to move your relationships onto deeper, more emotionally taxing levels. You are great at keeping the flame burning, but once it is out, so are you.

ESFP ("The Entertainer")

While some people see relationships as long-term journeys toward the altar, you see them more as flings to be enjoyed so long as there is fun to be had. The minute the going gets tough, your instinct is to break things off.

That being said, while a relationship with you is short, it is definitely not one that will easily be forgotten. While your tendency to flee from a relationship as soon as it stops being fun may leave you with some problems in the future, one problem you will never have to deal with is the regret of knowing you settled for someone who didn't make you truly happy.