9 Qualities You Have That Could Make A Guy Think You're Out Of His League
“No I can't go for her. She's way out of my league.”
We hear people talking about other people being “out of their league” like this all the time, but as far as straight dudes are concerned, what does put someone “out of their league”?
Odds are, you're probably pretty curious (or at least, you've wondered about it before), so let's get down to it.
A recent Reddit thread asked guys to reveal exactly what made them know a girl was out of their league. So in case you didn't already know you were out of these random guys' leagues, here's how to know FOR SURE if you are.
You've got plenty of options.
Because a lot of guys asked her out and she rejected them all. I was close friends with her so I regarded her 'flirting' as being friendly and just generally being friends So I didn't bite the bullet and having the chance of damaging the friendship or succeeding.
You like him (and he just so happens to be extremely insecure).
Because I have such a catastrophically low opinion of myself that I think everyone is too good for me and if somebody says they like me there must be some hidden agenda.
You aren't boring.
Because she is much more interesting and can do much, much better than me. I'm an engineer at a firm that isn't going anywhere, used to do interesting things but gave most of them up to do nothing to sit on the couch, and don't ever want to have kids or deal with anything associated with them.
I know my place, I know my role, I know where I stand. There are much better hookup or relationship options out there, I fully encourage people that show any interest in me to fully pursue those options, it's better for both of us this way.
Because she's objectively the most interesting person I know, and several years older.
Finding out she admired me was a huge confidence booster, even if it wasn't in the romantic sense.
You're hot and (get this) you have a personality.
I dated a girl for a while who, to this day, I still have no idea why the hell she was with me.
She was perfect to the point that it almost felt like a parody: drop dead gorgeous, funny, wonderful personality, very sociable and made friends quickly, extremely intelligent and would make great grades with little effort, and basically succeeded in every endeavor she put her mind to.
I, on the other hand, am basically the definition of mediocrity (minus being in very good shape and having been told I'm fairly good-looking): average grades, average at my job, average at meeting new people/being sociable, average intelligence, and basically every endeavor I've attempted to break out of the "average" mold has gone down in flames.
She dumped me, so I'm thinking she probably came to the same conclusion.
You're more financially successful than he is.
Because even though I've got a pretty good life, she had a more important job than me, made more money than I did, was very passionate about her job (politics), she was a very motivated and driven person who knew exactly what she wanted and went after it. They were all things I admired but were also intimidating as shit. Mostly because I've dealt with a lot of issues throughout my 20's of not feeling good enough, etc. So ultimately my insecurities got the best of me and I put her on a much higher pedestal and dubbed her as someone who was "better than me".
Therapy has helped me realize she's human just like everyone else and has her own issues and insecurities and shit.
So ultimately, nobody is better than you. Work on not thinking that way.
You've got good street cred.
Because everyone at my school said so.
"oh you're trying to date Her? don't bother man, she's too good for you, she doesn't date anyone."
You're really good at video games.
She got the Killimanjaro medal on Halo Reach before I did.
You have deep, beautiful, soulful eyes.
Because when we are lying in bed together and I look in her eyes, I think to myself: " My god she is so incredible. How did I get so lucky."
You just tell him, duh!
She told me.
Just to be clear here, this is just a bunch of random people's opinions.
YOU KEEP BEING YOUR COOL, AWESOME SELF, AND I PROMISE YOU'LL BE OUT OF EVERY DORK'S LEAGUE.
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