Not Over You: Why You Need To Stop Stalking Your Ex On Social Media

Not Over You: Why You Need To Stop Stalking Your Ex On Social Media
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Whether we want to admit it or not, we have all stalked our exes on social media. Though we’ve all done this, it’s never worth your time. Here are five significant reasons you need to stop doing this right now.

1. Don’t let yourself be defined by TLC’s ”Creep”

“So I creep, yeah

Just Keep it on the down low

Said nobody is supposed to know.” - TLC 


2. It is only going to make you angry

Seeing your ex with another guy or girl is only going to upset you. Why would you willingly do that to yourself? You will compare yourself to the new significant other in every way imaginable.

This will make you feel insecure and angry and only prompt you to call your best friend to get reassurance that your replacement is fat and ugly.


3. You might accidentally “like” something on their Facebook page

That’s embarrassing. Now they know that you were stalking them, they will tell all of your mutual friends about it, and you are going to look desperate and crazy.


4. You will literally drive yourself crazy

Spending time searching every avenue of social media to find any mentions of a new special someone in your ex’s life will drive you insane. Instead, do something constructive with your time.

Go to the gym and get your best body ever or buy a fab new wardrobe so you will always look amazing and will be able to attract a new mate.


5. You can’t get over someone if you look at their pictures every day

If you continue this pattern, then you will just draw out the process of fixing your broken heart for much longer than necessary. Though I’m not usually one to quote Tupac, he made a great point when he claimed:

“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can leave the pieces on the floor and move the f*ck on.”- Tupac Shakur

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Ellen Scheidt

Ellen is a twenty-three year old writer from Pittsburgh, Pa. A Graduate of Duquesne University. She is currently finishing her Masters in Professional Counseling. As an aspiring therapist, her goal is to change the perceptions of others for the greater good. The post-grad transition into the real world is a trying time for us all. Ellen is able to captivate the daily struggles of all young twenty-something's while staying fab. Instagram @ellenscheidt Twitter: Allen_Scheidt

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