Why Getting Married In Your 20s Might Be The Worst Idea Ever

Why Getting Married In Your 20s Might Be The Worst Idea Ever
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I am sure there will be a lot of people reading this article with a middle finger pointed in my virtual direction. Thus, I apologize in advance to anyone who believes in the constitution of a marriage and feels insulted by this article. But frankly, I believe marrying in your 20s (or maybe even marrying at all) is the worst idea ever.

Don’t get me wrong; I am the first to break down in tears when people find true love. It’s just that I don’t believe you need a piece of paper to prove that. Especially if you’re not even old enough to make grown-up decisions. And let’s be honest, it really takes a while for us to get to that point.

As clichéd as it sounds, when you finish college you have your whole life in front of you. It’s the one point in your life when you are truly free to do whatever the f*ck you want. You could move to Panama and work on a mango farm and no one would hold you back. (Well…maybe your parents, but no husband or kid, at least!)

I get that when you fall in love, suddenly all of your previous dreams of working on a mango farm go out the door because, well, everything is so f*cking amazing now that you’ve found true love. Yet, I genuinely believe there is absolutely no reason to be marrying in your 20s. Here’s why:


You Are Still A Baby

You probably just moved out of your parents’ home; you’re living alone for the first time; and you have no idea how you’re supposed to survive and provide yourself with food, electricity or clean clothes.

Also, there are a million different things that seem way more important. But that’s okay, because if you don’t pay your Internet bill this month, at least there won’t be anyone lecturing you about why you need to act like an adult — at least not if you live alone, which I hope you still do.


You Don’t Really Know What You Are Getting Into

If you are in a relationship, and if you live with someone, you will probably be receiving a lot of lecturing as stated above. Just imagine having a husband or wife annoying you all the time. Trust me, you’ll feel like there is no way out once you are in it. Wait until you live with someone for at least four years, realize you don’t think he or she is so amazing after all and reach the point when it’s time to kiss the butterflies goodbye.


You Have No Idea What You Want And You Will Have To Compromise (A Lot)

I don’t even know if I will be in the same place two months from now, let alone in two years. If you are married, you can’t just make life decisions on your own. It’s not all about you anymore. You won’t be able to move across the country without taking your better half into consideration. You can’t just be hungover for an entire week and not give a sh*t that someone now cares about you. Also, it’s probably time to forget about the mango farm!


Try Focusing On Your Career Or School

This time of your life should be spent building a life you will be proud of (or maybe just one that’s a hell of a ride) some day. Relationships are time-consuming as it is. Imagine planning a whole wedding and being married.

No thanks! If you are a women in your early or mid-twenties and are planning on getting married, quitting your job/school and just becoming a housewife, excuse me while I jump out of the window (I can see the middle fingers pointing at me). There is no reasonable explanation for any women to ever want that.

You can have a baby and be housewife after you’ve achieve something for yourself, which will provide you with the one thing no damn husband in the world will be able to give you: independence!

So, here’s my advice. If you fall in love, do it wisely. Do yourself and the world a favor and don’t get married — at least not yet. Start doing whatever you want, go wherever you want and stay for as long as you want. You will have the rest of your life to hopefully spend with someone you put on a pedestal.

If you think you have to prove to the world you are so in love by marrying young, ask yourself why on earth you need a piece of paper to be happy. Unless you are marrying a billionaire who’s stupid enough to not have you sign a pre-nup, there is absolutely no reason to get married so early! Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

Mirjam | Honesty For Breakfast

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