Relationships

10 Reasons Masturbating Is Better Than Sex

by Amy Horton
Universal Pictures

Are you one of these people who don't masturbate? Please say no.

Masturbating is the best. Some would say it's even better than sex! It's definitely nothing to feel ashamed about.

Here are ten reasons why taking care of your own needs is awesome:

1. You can get off faster.

Sometimes you just want to rub one out and be done with it!

During intercourse with someone else, you have to wait for them to get you there. Often they are less familiar with your body than you are, and so it takes them for-ev-er. Some solo time with a quality vibrator and you can get yourself there in seconds.

2. You take control of your own pleasure.

Maybe you don't want to get off quickly, even in solo play. With masturbation, you run the show.

If you want to prolong your own orgasm until you're dying and therefore make it more powerful, that's your call. You have total control over what's going on. You have different needs on different days, and you can tend to those accordingly!

3. You can be selfish.

No need to worry about how someone else is doing because no one else is involved. You don't have to think about a partner who may or may not be enjoying the sex.

It's all about you, yourself, and YOU. Enjoy that. You can take all the time in the world to figure out exactly what you want and need.

4. You aren't self-conscious.

If you are... well, then we have bigger problems to discuss.

There's no one to see how your stomach looks or to judge your funny orgasm faces. You don't have to waste any time worrying about body parts jiggling or setting up flattering lighting for your body. All you have to do is spend some quality time loving on your wonderful self.

5. It doesn't matter if you're having a "fat day".

No reason to cancel sex plans with yourself because you had too many margs last night. You should never feel like you're "too fat" to have sex anyway, but obviously there's always less pressure when no one else is looking! Sprawl out in all your sexy glory and let those ab muscles relax while you focus on what really matters.

6. It also doesn't matter if your legs are shaved.

Same goes for grooming — you don't have to feel like you need to clean up for yourself.

If you're still worried about tending to all that regardless of whether a man is around, combine the two: get a waterproof vibrator and take it into the tub with you. Good times...

7. There are a ton of fun toys to use.

You can incorporate toys into sex as well, but you must have a willing partner.

In solo play, the only opinion that matters is yours. Feel free to experiment and try anything and everything. It's the only way to figure out what gets you off.

8. You can do and say whatever you want.

It can get real weird when you bust out the dirty talk with someone who isn't into it. When you're taking care of your own pleasure, you can say and do whatever you need to get yourself off.

Judgement be damned - have a good time! You don't need to feel silly. No one else knows what went down.

9. It's portable pleasure.

You might not even need to carry around anything at all! Even if you aren't into digital stimulation and you need something motorized to get off, there are so many small and discreet vibrators. You could carry one in your purse if you really want. That means you can rub one out anywhere and everywhere. No second person required!

10. You don't need someone else to do it!

What could be better than knowing exactly how to give yourself a rocking orgasm? Yeah, hopefully someday someone else will do that same thing for you. But in a pinch, or even NOT in a pinch, masturbation will always be there like a reliable old (naughty) friend. Having the sexual independence to dictate your own pleasure is pretty cool.