“A structure of some seed-bearing plant you are the soil of my roots, characterized as having both male or female organs I am complete when I am with you. The period of highest development, you are my peak. The highest example or best representative you are the flower of my generation. A boutique so divine that even the Earth brings forth lease once season at a time. You are a Flower to life” -Poarts

Lovely, isn’t it? I wrote this to no one and was inspired by nothing other than Webster’s dictionary definition of the word Flower. Of course I could have told you a long story of broken hearts and fights with Cupid but the truth is GOOGLE. Let’s understand, I am a creature of Love much like everyone else, but finally let’s talk a bit about this infinite topic.

Much like many things in life, interpretation of words and actions, and the circumstances that come with them, are the key to how we choose to live our lives. Fantasy vs. fallacy is a fine line that determines how we project, predict and plan for this thing called “love.”

Now there are millions of experts and multitudes of literature, movies and songs about LOVE. I am here to suggest a milder and less time-consuming approach to the ultimate pain pleasure-experiences we have in drafting our definition.

Love is what you make it, not what it makes you — and so for you to get the most out of Love, don’t look for it, BECOME it. Love is first a thought, as we know, thoughts become things — so what you think about Love is what it will become for you.

Remember that you are the author of your life and what you believe will become your reality. Create a constructive image of what Love means to you, give it to yourself and become one with it. Then as the magnet of thoughts and like thoughts that you are, that which you think you will attract the like.

The unfortunate is that the word Love has been saturated in so much of our daily jargon, that somewhere along the line, the value and organic meaning has lost its place. Love is not an esoteric poem, play or picture, but simply mirrors to whom you are to yourself. Love is the mirror image of what you expect from yourself, not what you get from others.

I have personally chosen to let the unconditional acts of children and domesticated pets, particularly dogs to serve as one of my many examples of love. No pet has tuned to Descartes to learn how to be a pet, nor has any child joined Oprah’s Book club to become an extraordinary child.

They are the best examples of love, as they come from love and have no cognitive ability or reference to be anything else. Don’t believe me? Test it out by asking either about the last episode of “Sex in the City” or Norah Jones’ latest single and to recite Shakespeare and then show them your bank account to see how they respond.

I will guarantee it will have no effect on their current Love status for you. They have yet to learn Love but have managed to master the key components that come with its true meaning.

The cement filling and key ingredient of Love’s foundation is “unconditional.” Unconditional love has no reciprocal request, egotistical expectation, personal agenda or best-put conditions. No pet or child can read this below but they comprehend it even if you don’t.

Love does not judge, people do; Love is patient and kind, people aren’t; love does not envy or boast, people do; Love is not arrogant or rude, people will be. Love does not insist on its own way, people do; Love is not irritable or resentful, people are; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth, people lie. Love bears all things, believes all things, people doubt; Love hopes all things, people lose faith; Love endures all things, people quit.

IN LIFE YOU CAN GIVE WITHOUT LOVING BUT CANNOT LOVE WITHOUT GIVING – Scripture

Love is not an exchange; it’s an opportunity. Love is something and it’s something to love, but without it this world would be empty and meaningless. There is one common denominator in life amongst all beings, and that is the language of Love.

Don’t blame Love for “now or then” – “him or her” or “this or that,” take the responsibility for the meaning you gave it, and yourself. People do bad things and they do it in the name of Love, but that does not make love guilty, simply wrongly accused. Let us not blame that which is blameless, because all that we will forever be responsible for and in control of is our ability to love and be loved, according to how we perceive it for ourselves.

“If I follow my heart I may get hurt, but if I give into my fears I will always be in pain” – Jamel Davenport

Jamel Davenport | Elite.