Why Women Are More Attracted To Men Who Are Taken

Why Women Are More Attracted To Men Who Are Taken
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I haven’t been in many relationships, but those I have been in always seemed to be a mix of good and bad. I’m sure I’m not the only guy in the world who has found himself in the same predicament; whenever I’m in a relationship, for whatever reason, I seem to have even better luck with women in general.

I used to think it was the universe having a good laugh. Now, though, I’ve come to realize that it has nothing to do with the universe. It’s the women.

There is nothing more attractive to a female than a good-looking man in a committed relationship. It’s the oddest phenomenon, one that has proven to be true time and time again. Why exactly would a woman opt to seek out and seduce a taken man, though?

Why would she not go for a guy who is, say, single? If you take a look at the reasoning behind it, it actually makes perfect sense. There are actually several very good reasons that are psychologically rooted and connected to human nature itself.

Reason one suggests that men who have already been “chosen” must have been chosen for good reason. A woman’s logic might say, “If the guy is good enough for her and she’s not more awesome than I am, then the guy is likely to be good enough for me, as well.”

A man that is already accounted for is automatically slightly more attractive than if he were single. You see, when a guy is single, there is always the possibility that there is something off about him. I mean, if he is good-looking and seemingly intelligent, then why is he not taken? Is he a player? Is he gay? Is he just an assh*le that no woman would want?

There must be a reason why the guy is alone, right? This is a great filtration system for women; all the taken men are obviously not afraid of commitment, and a guy willing to commit is much hotter than a guy who isn’t.

“Oh, he’s taken? Challenge accepted!” Most women these days are just as competitive, if not more so, than men. These days, the female race is a whole lot more confident and aggressive, to boot, especially sexually. Women like a challenge just as men do and are more than happy to get catty and rip a guy from another woman’s clutches.

I’ve seen it happen in front of my eyes several times so I am certain this is the case — even if none of you ladies are willing to admit it. If a woman wants what another woman has, there is a high probability that she will try to take it.

Of course, it’s different between friends and whatnot (usually), but if the guy’s girlfriend is someone you don’t know very well or don’t care for, and you’re into him, then tell me that you won’t at least consider trying to seduce him. That’s what I thought…

Another reason women make over men they “can’t have” is explained by the simple truth that a woman’s ego is less likely to be damaged if she doesn’t manage to win over a taken man: “If he were single, he’d definitely be into me…” Women who go after committed men have huge egos; the same goes for the men trying to steal women from their boyfriends.

Individuals with large egos like to keep their egos the same size. Being turned down is a quick way to get your ego bruised. So, instead of risking damage to the ego, women go after guys they can always brush off as “not easily influenced.” He couldn’t possibly be taken away from his girlfriend, so you didn’t fail because success wasn’t a possibility.

The truth is, only the weak go after those who are already taken. Sure, we may naturally find unavailable people more attractive, but if you’re trying to find a good partner, you should be going after the men who are most likely going to accept your courtship.

It’s one thing if you have fallen for some other woman’s man, but if it’s really just a game to you, then at least don’t pretend you’re trying to find yourself in a committed relationship. Be honest; you aren’t interested in that.

You just like the thrill of the chase; you love the game. That’s fine if that’s what you want, but chances are, you’re only living the lifestyle out of fear of true rejection.

In fact, you can just disregard anything you just read. At least some guys out there will be thanking me the next time they’re seduced by another woman.

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Paul Hudson

A young writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur, Paul Hudson (@MrPaulHudson) has been writing for Elite Daily nearly since the start. Currently located in Manhattan, Paul Hudson primarily devotes his time between writing for Elite Daily and a mining startup in Turkey. He loves sharing his life experiences with his readers and makes sure to practice what he preaches.

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