Let Me Tell You Why You’re Single

Let Me Tell You Why You’re Single
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Last year has come and has gone and people are have yet to smarten up. I swear people must not hear themselves think, speak, or type, because the same stupidity continues to come out of their mouths.

I’m talking about those people who keep complaining that they’re single, again, because it keeps happening, again, and again. It’s not funny to joke about how you’re single, it’s not funny when you hashtag #foreveralone and it’s so fucking annoying how those people who complain about being single act like victims.

You want to know why you’re single? You are the reason why you’re single. You suck, that’s why.

Stop needing a relationship. Be independent, be self-confident. Your need for a boyfriend/girlfriend is the number one driving force as to why everyone avoids you like the bubonic plague.

Maybe if you went out with the intention of having fun with your friends rather than looking for a life partner at the age of 20, you’d be a little more successful.

Stop blaming your past relationships as the reason why you’re single. Just because your ex-boyfriend cheated on you or your ex-girlfriend broke your heart does not mean that everyone else on the planet will do the same.

Your fear is immature and in no way justified. There are billions of people on this planet: the chances of someone doing the same wrong to you are high, but the chances of you finding someone who is nothing like your ex are much higher.

Stop not trusting. Stop going through your boyfriend or girlfriends phone. Stop assuming the worst. Stop asking intimidating questions hoping to catch your significant other in a lie. You need to relax and realize that no one wants to feel like they’re being interrogated.

Remember when your parents used to not trust anything you did or said? Remember how much you hated it, wanted to run away from home and move out? The same feeling applies in adult relationships, and until you lighten the fuck up, you will remain single.

Stop being jealous. A jealous person is the most unattractive person. Let me tell you something: there will always be someone prettier than you, stronger than you, better dressed than you, smarter than you, funnier than you, more well off than you, and you better get used to it, but at the same time… never let anyone know that.

Who cares if someone has something better than you have? As long as you act like you’re the best, no one will notice the difference. Showing your jealously, or getting jealous at all, will only push people away after a certain period of time. Quit the immaturity, and you’re 500 steps closer to finding someone who can handle you.

And finally, stop making such high expectations. I promise you that you will never find a real life Ryan Gosling who will build you a fucking house for you to paint in. You’re delusional.

Stop being so picky, stop finding flaws in everyone. Stop fleeing from the ‘nice guy’ because you like bad guys and then crying when none of the bad guys want to commit.

Stop being so particular about a female’s appearance and listen to what she has to say instead of paying attention to her body’s build. Let yourself have a conversation with people and feel a connection, a mental connection.

Follow these few rules (I know this will pain you), and stop complaining about being single when you’re two years out of college and have your whole life ahead of you, and just let things happen.

Ally | Elite.

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Ally is a preppy tomboy who loves all things football and fashion. She's a housewife in training and is known as the highly opinionated, and sometimes rude, first woman of Elite Daily. Be prepared to always be caught off guard.

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