Guys And Girls Reveal When You Should Start Splitting The Bill On A Date
As far as I'm concerned, the guy should pay for the first date. And if he really wants this to go somewhere, he should pay for the second, as well.
After that, I'll be more open to splitting the bill. But those first couple of dates are the time for me to be courted a little.
Sure, I'll offer to split the check. But I don't actually mean it.
Before you go calling me stingy and anti-feminist, let me take a second to highlight the fact I'M NOT ALONE.
Elite Daily recently surveyed 223 men and women, ages 18 to 34, to find out how money affects their relationships.
We found 30 percent of women are JUST LIKE ME, in that they “do the fake wallet reach, but don't actually want to split.”
Moreover, 73 percent of men assume they should pay, basically ensuring us ladies won't actually end up having to go dutch.
73 percent of men assume they should pay for a first date.
So, for the most part, we're all pretty much on the same page about who's going to pay on the first date… but what happens after that?
Personally, I think the third date is when going dutch becomes a viable option. Before that, I want something that differentiates a date from a dinner out with my platonic friends.
But that's just me. I wanted to know what other people were thinking, so I asked the good people of Reddit at what point they thought a couple should start splitting the check.
For the most part, people agreed splitting the check was OK for the first date, but alternating on who picks up the tab was a better MO than splitting for the future.
Basically, lots of people are fans of taking turns.
I never really split the check outside of maybe the first date. I personally prefer trading off who picks up the tab, or if it is like a movie, one person pick up the tickets the other drives/does snacks. This is what I do with friends as well and it generally works out to be pretty equal in the end.
I don't think I've ever split the check beyond the first couple of dates. After that it's just easier to alternate paying.
I always assumed it was a 'take turns' type of thing when the relationship is established.
I'd start by paying separately and then move to alternating when I'm in a relationship. It would be nuts to pay for someone else's food and drinks when I don't even know if we are going to see each other again.
I just like to alternate who pays, right from the start. And if I make more money than her, I just pick up the occasional extra one or try to make it work so I get the more expensive ones.
She can buy her own drinks.
From then on… it's like a friendship. If I get lunch with a buddy, sometimes I buy, sometimes he does… I expect the same.
I think the more seriously coupled you are the less you should be splitting the check. There's just no reason if you're in a committed relationship, because you know that if you get the check this time, there'll be a next time where they cover it instead.
I've always started out splitting the check, then once the relationship takes off, we alternate picking up the whole check.
For this guy, there is a method to how he and his lady alternate bills:
My philosophy has always been whoever is taking the other out on the date pays. Like if my girlfriend invites me to dinner she pays, and if I take her out to play mini golf I pay. I try not to overthink who pays for what as long as we're about even.
But there are still some couples who see splitting as a viable option, even further into the relationship:
My SO and I have been splitting or alternating from the first date.
We split the check on our first date because we both ate and had a good time. Even now we alternate or split. We both work, we both get paid, we both can afford it.
And, of course, there are the modern-day Casanovas with money to spare:
Be a man. Pay the damn bill.
Of course, every couple is different. You and your SO should do whatever makes the most sense financially.
But if you really are stressing over who's supposed to start paying after the first date, alternating bills seems to be a pretty safe bet.
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