I never thought I'd do any online dating. It felt inorganic to me, but a friend, who is a bit more avant-garde about this sort of thing, convinced me to make a profile — so I did.
She swore it would be easy and fun, so I decided I would try Tinder. I won't say all of my experiences have been terrible, but they haven't all been peachy, either.
In general, being a curvy girl can be tough. You can't always shop where you want, people have things to say about your body — which are oftentimes negative — and your own insecurities about yourself add on to the already stressful task that is dating.
On the other hand, not dating at all should never be an option, so I went for it.
And now that I've been through all of it — or at least what I think is all the experience I could possible acquire through using Tinder — I thought I'd give a run-down of what dating is like for us curvy girls.
Here are five ridiculous comments and dating pitfalls I've experienced in the land of Tinder as a curvy girl.
How curvy are you?
Ah, the age-old question. If I'm curvy like Kim K, great. If I'm curvy like Rebel Wilson, not so great — which is a load of crap, to be honest, cause she's gorgeous.
Numerous guys have asked me to compare myself to someone famous so that they can more or less get a sense of how curvy I am.
The truth is, I can't really compare myself to anyone because my body is unique. Also, this proves how blind men can be. Literally. I have three full-body shots on my profile.
The truth is, I can't really compare myself to anyone because my body is unique.
The truth is, I can't really compare myself to anyone because my body is unique.
"Can I feed you?"... and other weird fetishes
Curvy girls are a bit of a fetish for some guys, and I've definitely been treated like one.
I've been asked if I'd like to be fed massive amounts of food, I've been asked if I'm into squashing, gut flopping, leg-captivity, the list goes on.
Curvy girls are more than just fetishes, so it's kind of sad to be treated like you're nothing more than a curiosity to some people.
Curvy girls are more than just fetishes, so it's kind of sad to be treated like you're nothing more than a curiosity to some people.
Ghosted after one date
The date goes superbly!
You have the best conversation, you laugh and share stories. You think this guy could definitely be Prince Charming ... and then he goes ghost.
I know guys can be visual creatures, so I can understand if a guy doesn't like extra curves, but this culture of just going ghost is not healthy.
If the conversation was awesome and there was chemistry, the only reason for you to ghost is cause you weren't physically attracted to the person. Not wanting to pursue a relationship, or a second date at least, because you're not attracted to someone is completely acceptable, but ghosting for it isn't.
As a collective, our generation needs to learn to confront things better.
"Your face is perfect."
Um thanks ... but so is the rest of me.
The little extra curvature that surrounds me is also pretty perfect.
You know what else is perfect? Short people's shortness, a crooked smile, thinness, big feet. All beautiful, all perfect.
The rest of my body shouldn't be disregarded because my face is so much more socially acceptable than my body.
The rest of my body shouldn't be disregarded because my face is so much more socially acceptable than my body.
Backhanded compliments like that truly suck.
DTF?
So rude!
I know many people on Tinder are there to solely participate in easy sex, but before you swipe read. Seriously, just read. No hookups really means no hookups.
