Relationships

21 Things You Need To Do By Yourself Before You Tie The Knot

by Alexa Mellardo

The best time in your life to accomplish all of your bucket list goals and dreams is before you tie the knot.

There is no better time than the present to make it all about you. This is the hip-hip-hurrah phase, so challenge your mind, and feed your soul with things you love.

Once you decide to tie the knot, it’s no longer all about you... it’s about the both of you.

Don’t get me wrong: You will start an amazing chapter at that time with your soulmate, but your priorities and situation may change.

Embrace your time now, and live it up, so when you start your next stage, you will have no regrets.

Don’t let this once-in-a-lifetime “me” stage pass you by without a great plan in motion. Think about doing some of these out-of-the-box things…

1. Feed your wanderlust abroad.

Embrace travel at full throttle. The world awaits you.

Don’t waste any time… plan an itinerary, pack your bags, and go for it!

2. That spontaneous, crazy adventure you’ve always dreamed of... do it.

Hike the Grand Canyon, take rock-climbing classes in Seattle, snorkel it up in Maui, or go on an African safari. The possibilities for a spectacular memory are endless.

3. Challenge your mind.

Your mind is a terrible thing to waste. Expand it, expose it and fill it with anything and everything that interests you. There’s no time like the present to go back to school if that’s on your bucket list.

4. Learn to shop and cook for a healthy lifestyle.

Eating healthy should be incorporated into your daily routine. Being a healthy shopper will be second nature once you have your go-to recipes and favorite food stores.

5. Live in or near a fun city… if even just for a little while.

You never know where your life or career may take you. City living is an experience you will never forget, and it’s chock-filled with culture, people to meet and things to do.

If you have the opportunity and desire to live in a major city, the time is now.

6. Pursue your dream job, even if it’s a complete career change.

If you’re not waking up every day doing something you completely love, it’s time to make a change. The process may take time, but will be well worth the wait and effort you put into it.

7. Commit to some strict weekly “you time.”

Identify what you really enjoy doing, and carve out time in your busy weekly schedule to do it.

It can simply be devouring a bowl of your favorite ice cream, a run on the beach or cuddling up with a good book. Sometimes the little things in life are the most satisfying.

8. Eliminate baggage… learn not to sweat the small stuff.

If any aspect of your life is draining you, take steps to make a change… ASAP.

Learn what is worth your concern and what is not. Life is much too short to dwell on what you cannot control.

9. Re-evaluate your friendships.

Embrace strengths and understand weaknesses in friends.

Each friend has his or her own niche that is special to you, so love him or her for that.

Be selective with your circle of friends, and take this time in your life to make that circle spectacular.

10. Plan a wine camp adventure.

You can actually work the vineyards and learn everything you could possibly want to know from master winemakers.

If money is not a restriction, go for Tuscany!

11. Nurture your spirit.

Go on a meditation retreat or to a yoga camp. Make a calming plan for relaxation; rejuvenate and inspire your inner strength.

Need I say more?

12. Surround yourself with things that make you happy.

Your everyday environment should contain things that make you happy, whether it’s vintage furniture, plush new bedding or spectacular wall art. Plan it out and just do it!

13. Splurge on the impractical car you love.

You will never look better in that sports car than you will now, so have no regrets.

One day, you may have to drive a more practical car to suit your future self. Put your shades on now, and splurge for the new wheels.

14. Don’t let finding the perfect soulmate stress you out

Everything will happen at the right time. That is why it’s so important not to waste one second prioritizing, planning and enjoying everything on your bucket list.

And who knows, you may meet that perfect soulmate while you’re going down the list!

15. Be confident and comfortable with who you are.

Be happy with your overall image, inside and out. Identify any qualities you’d like to change about yourself, and address them one step at a time.

Now is the best time to find your true self and style – one you feel confident and comfortable with.

16. Get into the habit of doing something great for others.

Participate in walkathons, or volunteer for service projects. Try to do something nice for someone each and every day, even if it’s holding a door or letting someone go ahead of you.

Paying it forward is rewarding, and Karma truly does exist in all shapes and sizes.

17. Spend time with your friends and family.

Take advantage of any free time you can spend with those you really care about, while you have the time to do it. Vacation with your bestie(s) now.

This doesn’t mean you won’t go again in the future, but this is a prime time to make memories.

18. Get a puppy.

If you can, a puppy is a great companion and will love you unconditionally. A smiling face is an amazing thing to come home to at the end of a long day.

19. Go glamping.

Plan a glamping expedition on the West Coast. Some day you may be camping with the fam. But for now, do it right… with a wood-burning stove in a canvas cottage with stunning views, local artwork and an endless amount of wine.

You need to be a high-end glamper, stat.

20. Seize and embrace the opportunity of being free.

Never put anything off that you can do now while you are willing and able.

Live life with absolutely no regrets, accepting opportunity with open arms.

Never fear change, but rather confidently take chances after carefully weighing all of the possible outcomes.

21. Live. It. Up.

Unwrap every new day as a precious gift. Make it a habit to start each morning with the intent of making that day better than yesterday.

Don’t look back or dwell on the past because it’s long gone.

Greet the future with open arms and positive anticipation.

Playing out your bucket list will make you as prepared as you possibly can be to start a spectacular life when you are ready to tie the knot… and you can start a brand new bucket list together with not one regret.