Why You Should Date A Girl With Short Hair
Short hair gets a bad rap. Men say it's too masculine and too assertive and women think it's too attention-seeking and needy. While it's none of the above, it’s a risky, demonstrative and beautiful thing to have short hair.
Having short hair is both feminine and masculine. It's a nod in the right direction for all the women who know – and believe – that the length of your hair in no way, shape or form influences the content of your character or your sexuality. And it's a carefully placed middle finger for any and everyone who says otherwise.
Short hair is brilliant and brave.
It shows she's not the fall-in-line type
Laurie Penny, a writer and woman with a lifelong allegiance to her cropped chop, explained in a reactive essay to claims that short-haired girls are “damaged,” that short hair, no matter how you slice it, is often considered a political move.
“Wearing your hair short,” she wrote on the New Statesman site, “or making any other personal life choice that works against the imperative to be as conventionally attractive and appealing to patriarchy as possible, is a political statement.”
Penny's argument is simple: Opting for a shorter cut implies that you're an individual, which is something our society as a whole struggles with.
Though we encourage independence and uniqueness, we err on the side of the group rather than the person.
We're cautious more than we are combative. Going against the grain – even with something as simple as a nontraditional cut – is like aligning yourself alongside the rebellious and the assertive.
It's effortlessly sexy
There's just something fabulous about having shorter hair. It's like saying, No, I don't need hair draped down to the small of my back to be desirable. Short hair doesn't leave room for assumptions or opinions: It is what it is.
Plus, there’s just something naturally sensual about a woman who doesn’t need to assert her femininity through vices that are consistent with outward beauty.
Who cares if you have highlights or if your hair reaches your ass? That’s not what makes a woman sexy.
It might add to the appeal, of course, but women who don’t rely on that and lean on it know, full well, that what makes a woman sexy reaches far beyond those skin-deep things.
They know it's just hair
Guess what? Your hair is going to grow back. It might take years and a few trips to the hairstylist, but you're not always going to have hair that stays the same length forever (genetic mutations aside, obviously).
Girls who are willing to make the chop know that this moment, this style, this cut, this length… it's only temporary. Like so many things in life, your haircut is not forever (unless you like it enough to keep it that length) and it's not the end all, be all. It will change eventually.
You won't always look the same – and what's the point of having a little fun if you aren't willing to take a little risk every now and then?
It points out other, more important, features
Like your smile, your well-contoured cheek points, your gorgeously thick eyelashes, your model-esque eyebrows.
When people are spending less time fawning over how long your locks are, they're taking the time to notice different, more important, features about you. Maybe you're incredibly well read or a fantastic public speaker.
Maybe you've got a Marilyn-esque mole that's an instant conversation starter or a scar on your forehead from surgery after getting into an automobile accident.
When you're not hiding or hidden behind your hair, you're no longer hiding or hidden by those same societal norms.
You're changing the conversation from what's happening on the outside and moving it to what's happening on the inside without even saying a word.
It's much, much more fun
Say what you will about blondes and brunettes and who's having more fun and blah, blah, blah, but let's clear the air when it comes to who's really having the best time: Girls with cropped 'dos.
A shorter cut adds instant personality and it's funky. It says “I'm here for a good time” without having to come out and say it and it's an instant talking point.
Guys and girls alike are usually flooded with questions when they see someone with a shorter hairstyle; they want to know why you cut your hair, if you were nervous and all of a sudden, they idolize you for a decision you made about one of your most superficial assets. Boom, instant friends.
There's also something about having just-hopped-out-of-the-shower locks that really sets the tone for the entire evening.
There's no fussing over why it won't curl, whether you should wear it up or down or if you need to bring extra bobby pins to keep loose strands in line.
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