Here are ten choices that ultimately lead to a life of regret and how you can evade them entirely:
10. Wearing a mask to impress others.
We live in a world where we can expose everything we do or think to the public at will. Social media feeds our insecurities about fitting in and causes us to cater our actions and day-to-day operations to please those around us. This is why it is so important to stick out, to be unique and to live your life by your own terms. If the face you are displaying to your “friends” is merely a mask with no real identity, someday it will come off and you won’t recognize who is underneath.
When you spend too much time trying to become an amalgamation of trends and fads, you forget who you truly are and lose sight of your passions and purpose. So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know who you are and what will make you feel good about yourself. Remember, it’s not those who look and act like everyone else who attract attention, it’s those who do the opposite and are damn proud of it.
9. Letting someone else create your dreams for you.
We all have our own path in life. Sure, other people may want you to be a doctor, lawyer or whatever the hell else your parents or peers had in mind for you. But if you follow someone else’s dreams, you will always be unsatisfied with the outcome. One of the greatest joys to be had is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find.
Steer your future in the direction you know will lead to the highest amount of fulfillment and the least regret. If people disagree with you, relax because this is a sign that you are doing something right. You are taking control and standing your ground. If you have the strength to do this, you can accomplish anything.
8. Keeping negative company.
As the good old saying goes, “you are who you eat with.” When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice instead of an obligation, you free yourself from jealousy and greed and open yourself to compassion and useful advice. Don’t ever feel obligated to do anything for people if they aren’t helping you achieve your goals in any way.
7. Being selfish and egotistical.
It’s fun to be the asshole, to be hated and laden with controversy. However, a life filled with good deeds and good character will be remembered much more than one drowned in disgust and distrust. Those who you have inspired, mentored and loved will remember how you made them feel long after your time on this earth has expired. What you have done for yourself dies with you, but what you have done for others will remain forever and ever.
6. Avoiding change and growth.
One of the worst mistakes you can make in life is staying stagnant and being too stubborn to evolve into the person who is capable of bring your dreams to reality. That is the most common route to pedestrian-ism. You must let go of the old to make way for the new to fill the void within yourself that is hungry for knowledge and new experiences. If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for long-lasting success.
5. Giving up when the going gets tough.
Mistakes and failure are a natural result of pushing your boundaries and trying to conquer what is ahead of you to reach your goals. It is a sign that you are going out of your comfort zone and telling your previous fears and limitations that you are triumphantly going to prove them wrong.
Failure is what allows you to learn from your mistakes so you don’t make them again. Don’t let it make you second guess yourself or discourage you from trying.
The battle is always won far away and long before the final victory. It’s a process that occurs with small steps, decisions and actions that gradually build upon each other and provide you with the tools and experience to get what you want.
4. Trying to micromanage every little thing.
You are not superman and you cannot control every thing that happens to you. Life should be touched, not strangled. Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight. It’s all about the way you react to the process of life throwing all of its wondrous curve balls your way.
You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going to be headed to go somewhere great. If you work hard enough to connect the dots, rhythm and order will appear more and more each day.
3. Settling for less than you deserve.
You get what you’re worth in this life. Your input is what creates your output. If you see something you want, you must do all you can to find a way to get it, and then you will receive what your hard work has let you deserve. Don’t settle for mediocrity or take the easy way out.
Fight for what you want and constantly keep working hard towards your dreams and goals. Don’t feel entitled to anything or feel like you are going to get lucky, because until you try to prove yourself worthy of the rewards you dream of, you won’t come any closer to getting them.
2. Endlessly waiting until tomorrow.
Yesterday you said tomorrow, and tomorrow never comes. We always think we have more time than we actually do, but until you learn to take advantage of every spark inside of you that wants to push forward, you will keep procrastinating into nothingness.
Stop ignoring your urges to work hard and put your ideas into reality. Make the most of your time, and realize how many chances you are given each day to take more steps towards your goal.
1. Being lazy and wishy-washy.
Complaining and being lazy will get you nowhere in life. The world doesn’t owe you anything and nothing is going to fall into your lap. Stop daydreaming and actually start doing, because opportunities are not given, they are taken. Hard work, patience and persistence are the only things that will make a nobody into a somebody.
Take full responsibility for your life – your future will be determined by how hard you try to get what you want. It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday. Someday is now and the somebody the world is waiting for is YOU.
Preston Waters | Elite.