5 Ways To Live And Love Again After Failure

5 Ways To Live And Love Again After Failure
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Failure is a part of life. It’s not something that anyone can run away from and it comes in all different shapes and sizes. Failures are experienced both in your work life and also in your personal life when it comes to the different relationships you have with people.

Some people can weather failure better than others, but most of us out there usually can’t handle it and crack under the pressure that accompanies it. For many of us, it takes time to work up the courage to try something novel and of course we are usually a lot more cautious the next time around.

That is not a good way to approach life and is actually a way to set yourself up for failure- again. Of course failure sucks and we all know it. It’s not anything fun to deal with and especially when we are so attached with what it is, like a lover that we have just lost or a business that fell through which we loved so much and gave it our all, and very best.

But the worst thing you can do to yourself is approach something new following those failures and be afraid, cautious and doubt yourself, worrying that the same outcome will occur. When you tell your subconscious mind that whatever you’re about to do might not work out, but will have the same outcome as before, the chances of failure are 100%.

You need to be confident and keep your head up high. It’s okay to fail. Always remember those who say they can and those who say they can’t usually both end up being correct. Here are the 5 things you need to do to live and love again after failure.

Take your time

Whatever the hell happened to you that left you down and left that terrible feeling in your stomach needs to come out. It’s best to talk to someone who you are close with- get it out of your system. The worst thing you can do to yourself is hold it all in. After the purging is done you need to take your time; you never want to rush into anything because you’re panicking. Acting off of emotions can be the worst thing you ever do.

You don’t want to make any rash decisions or commit to something you will regret later. Whether it be committing to a new job or a new relationship- take your time. Time is what will allow you to have a clear head and make rational decisions. Also, don’t ever let anyone’s views or opinions tell you what you should or shouldn’t be doing. It’s your life- keep it that way.

Forgive yourself for any failures

Maybe it was your fault or maybe it was beyond your control. Maybe your terrible relationship came to an end or you lost that job you loved having. Before you can move on you need to accept it. You need to accept failure and forgive yourself for it. Learn what you did wrong.

The last thing you want to do is be in denial. Stop denying the truth; you know you failed. Be proud of it and move on. You’re not the first person on planet earth that has failed. And here’s a little secret: you won’t be the last either.

Take personal accountability

To identify where the problems lay and why you failed, you need to take personal accountability for the consequences. Life is a two way street and your actions are what create reactions, and on and on.

Taking personal accountability for your actions will help to identify specific problems and allow you to work towards a solution. Otherwise you will keep blaming others and continue to repeat your mistakes. When you take accountability you realize where it is that you went wrong and will understand not to fall for the same trap twice or thrice.

Don’t let the past dictate your future

It’s very easy to just sit there and give up on the future because of your past- but that’s not living life, that’s purely surviving. Accept that you needed this failure to grow and mature so that you can progress as a human being. Don’t let your mistakes dictate your future. All it takes is a choice, to feel the fear and do it anyway.

Learn to live and love again

Don’t be afraid to live again and to open your heart to love, and to new adventures. A new relationship or a new career path is a great opportunity to do things right, to use the past as a guide, and create a successful, better future.

You’re not a loser, and you are not a complete failure. Take your time, learn to forgive yourself, push past the fear and choose to live an epic life- an Elite life. Sure it will take time, but you need to train your mind to do it once again- but this time to do it smarter and without mistakes.

Your life is valuable and you are worth it.

Preston Waters | Elite. 

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Preston Waters is a thinker. He's not your traditional philosophical persona, however, as he leaves no topic untouched. Covering all the bases, from business to women, Preston Waters is the ultimate man's man for Gen-Y.

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