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Why “No Homo” Is Not A Gay Slur

“No homo” is not a gay slur. “Homo” in certain contexts is a gay slur. Therefore “no homo” is like an anti-gay slur. It's the negation of a gay slur — that's just elementary logic folks (which I worked hard last semester to not fail).

Slurs are used to insult a group of people (I'm not going to list a bunch of ignorant words and describe their context). “No homo” is a phrase used to avoid being called gay slurs.

Here's an example. The other night before Game 7 of the NBA Finals, I had an itching for a snack. My stomach had been off all day and while my boys wanted to grab wings and beer, I just wanted some fro-yo (and naturally, an abundance of topping-glory). Examine the subsequent phone call I make to my friends: with and then without “no homo.”

Example 1:

Me: “Yo, what's good bro. You guys go grab the wings, I'll meet you at Adam's. I'm gonna grab some fro yo…no homo.”

My boy: “Oh, alright dude that sounds dope, I'll see you for tip off.”

Example 2:

Me: “Yo, I'm good on the wings…I just want fro yo.”

My boy: “Wow. You're a fag. Enjoy licking some dude's tip off.”

See, if you ask any homosexual which is more offensive, I guarantee the situation where “no homo” is left out will be your man (c'mon, it's an expression). Like I said before, “no homo” is used to avoid a barrage of unnecessary gay slurs, it isn't a slur in and of itself. Slurs are, by definition, slighting comments. I've used “no homo” when having one-on-one phone conversations with my girlfriend (that time I asked to watch “The Notebook” for the 3rd time in one week), who could I have been slighting in that scenario?

In fact, “no homo” should be embraced by the gay community. All it does, is reinforce the users' own sexuality — it doesn't detract from anybody else's. I'm more likely to tell people, “yeah, that new Mumford and Sons record is f*ckin' righteous bro,” knowing I can slip in “no homo” after, solely so I could kinda clear things up. I'm not speaking about anybody except yours truly.

Honestly, if I saw some gay man pick up a football and say ,“I think I'll toss around the old pigskin…no hetero,” I wouldn't be offended. I get it. You enjoy doing things associated with another sexuality: it should be flattering — not derogatory.

It all comes down to not being insecure and embracing yourself (as well as your own sexuality). I met a gay kid (in my design class) who was studying in Florence as well.

I was on the phone with my friend (while he was sitting next to me) and I accidentally slipped and said “fag” on the phone. Immediately realizing my faux pas, I said to him, “My bad bro, you know I didn't mean anything by that.” His response? “Are you kidding? Shut up, I call people fags all the time.” That's why he's the man, and I got love for him. No homo.

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Dan Scotti holds down the role of a Lifestyle Writer at Elite Daily. He was born and raised on Long Island, where he learned to avoid small talk with people, and graduated from Binghamton.
Dan Scotti holds down the role of a Lifestyle Writer at Elite Daily. He was born and raised on Long Island, where he learned to avoid small talk with people, and graduated from Binghamton.

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