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Not A B*tch, Just Bold: 6 Reasons Why I Won't Apologize For Being Me

I've been called a bitch more times than I could possibly count, or even imagine counting. Sometimes it's an insult, sometimes a compliment. Either way, I disagree.

Sure, if you use society's definition of the word — a bossy, intense and blunt woman — I am, in all senses of the word, a major bitch.

But since when is being a strong woman a bad thing?

I know what I want.

And I'm not afraid to ask for it.

I like things done my way, and sometimes that can ruffle a few feathers and come across as a little bossy (bitchy). But it's who I am.

Sure, I'm not the best person to teach others, but why waste time when I know I'll do something right the first time?

Don't get me wrong; I do make mistakes, but I own up to them because I know they are my mistakes and I can learn from them and fix them.


I lack “normal” emotions.

Being stone cold can definitely come across as being a frigid bitch, and it's definitely gotten me into trouble in just about all of my relationships. But it's not entirely my fault.

I've gotten hurt a lot in life, and replacing all other emotions with anger has just worked for me. I also say whatever is on my mind at that exact moment, mostly without thinking.

It's hard to remember other people have “normal” emotions.


I'm super intense.

I throw myself into whatever I'm doing — whether it's a work project, planning a friend-cation or even that one time I tried to make jewelry (It did not turn out well.).

I'm intense because I care, and I don't like to mess up.

If I'm the designated planner for something, I will jump right in and ask a million questions and probably annoy the f*ck out of everyone, but at least it will be done right. I don't mess around.


I'm sarcastic.

This is where I tend to get the most comments about being a bitch, probably because I tend to refer to myself as one.

It's called self-deprecation, people, and it's a defense mechanism. Everyone should be able to laugh at themselves, and I will be the first person to give someone a reason to.

Also, sarcasm is my way of being blunt without being too rude.


I'm blunt.

I'm always good to let someone know whether he or she has food in his or her teeth, messed up makeup or a bad outfit. I've never been one to hold back the truth, and that is something I pride myself on. Liars suck.

I'm going to tell you exactly what I mean every time, even if some feelings get hurt along the way.

I usually try to use my words in the nicest way I can, but sometimes it's just not possible to kindly tell someone I simply don't like him or her.


I'm competitive.

I want to be the best in sports, work, school and life. I don't care if we are BFFs.

When it comes down to that new promotion, I'm going to do everything I can to get it.

Don't confuse that with the idea that I will stab you in the back and talk sh*t. While I do fight, I don't fight dirty. If I'm going to get that job, it's because I'm the better candidate, and I will make sure you know it (with my intensity.) There's no reason why you shouldn't get something you deserve.

Maybe it's my fierce resting face. Maybe it's my intensity. Maybe it's just that I have a bold, in your face personality, and I guess it can be a little intimidating.

I like to think I'm a decent person who just happens to be a tad more aggressive than most people.

Sure, sometimes it can be a little much for others, but is that really my problem?

Maybe you think I'm a bitch. But guess what? Every time you call me a bitch, I'm able to laugh it off because IDGAF what you think.

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Sydney Connelly

Contributor

Perpetually confused about life. I enjoy live-tweeting my frustration and constant anger with people and posting pictures on IG @Sydconn. Stay weird.
Perpetually confused about life. I enjoy live-tweeting my frustration and constant anger with people and posting pictures on IG @Sydconn. Stay weird.

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