Hiding In Plain Sight

Hiding In Plain Sight
Life
Like Us On Facebook
Like Us On Facebook

New York City is a great city. The food, the wine, the women… it really does provide the best selection of everything and anything that one could ask for. There are over 8 million people in NYC, not including those tourists whom we all love so very much. With so many people to potentially interact with, it may come as a surprise that a large number of New Yorkers are rather lonely.

New York is a large city and has a tendency of remaining so hectic that the experience often is somewhat overwhelming. A common sight in the city that never sleeps is that person sitting off to the side, keeping to him or herself — fading into the background. No one really notices him and he doesn’t bother to approach anyone or to start a conversation.

Whenever I notice one of these quiet neighbors on his or her lonesome, I think to myself: why bother leaving the house if you don’t plan on interacting with the outside world? These people seem to want to stay isolated, yet at the same time they wish to be seen.

tumblr_mlzl3ozbr31snziw5o1_500

Walking around New York, you will notice people in coffee shops, restaurants and parks sitting and either reading or doing work. I have done so myself many times — it’s nice to grab a coffee and sit somewhere other than your apartment. Although, I wonder if good coffee is all that is in play here.

I wonder if there isn’t a subtler reason behind why so many of us choose to place ourselves in eyesight of others while we do things that are meant to be done alone. One may argue that some are more focused and more productive when they work outside of home or outside of the office — that there are fewer distractions.

How there can be fewer distractions in such a public place with people bustling around and noise surrounding us I do not know. What I feel is that many of us go out and place ourselves in such public locations in order to be seen.

photo_bagatelle2

That’s what we really all want, isn’t it? We want to be seen. We want our existence to be acknowledged. We want to feel as if we are important, needed — as if our disappearance would make a difference to someone, anyone. We may tell ourselves that we like to do work at Starbucks because we enjoy the atmosphere, but what most of us really want is to be noticed.

This is not something that most of us will admit, so I would advise being wary before going up to a New Yorker anywhere and starting a conversation — we aren’t known for being the kindest, that would be the Canadians.

city-lights-new-york-new-york-city-new-york-city-time-square-Favim.com-450672

Take your love life for example. Before you can have a relationship, you need to meet the right person. How will you meet them? Where and when? I feel as if people leave too much to fate. I am sure that planning to meet the right person won’t pan out exactly the way you expect it, but everyone should consider the ‘perfect meeting.’ If you were writing a novel or screenplay, how would you have yourself meet the love of your life? It’s a fun mental activity.

We rarely think about such things, which I believe to be a mistake. The one thing about love that I know for certain is that it is what you make of it. The more romantic you want your relationship to be and to develop, the more romantic will your thoughts have to be on the subject. Living in the city for years, you will see much wooing.

I have seen men going up to women in the coffee shops that I’m describing and attempting to start conversations only to be shot down instantly. Most people in New York seem to always be on the defensive, but I am sure that goes for people in other cities as well.

We have been taught to always protect ourselves first — always be on the defensive and avoid letting strangers in. But if we never let strangers in the front door then how can we ever hope to meet the person of our dreams? How do we expect to even make friends or network? We don’t allow for conversations to start, so conversations never occur. Instead you see the same lonely people sitting at the same cafes reading their books and sipping their coffee, alone.

Both wanting to be seen and wanting to remain isolated — hiding in plain sight. Not everyone is out there trying to get you or trying to take advantage of you. There are people roaming the city that are just as lonely as you are and are looking for nothing more than a friend. Or perhaps they are looking for the love of their lives—if you don’t talk to them, then you will never know. Whether it’s fear or stubbornness does not make a difference; the result is the same: you will end up alone.

Photo Courtesy: Tumblr

Share Tweet
React
Like Us On Facebook
Like Us On Facebook

Paul Hudson

A young writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur, Paul Hudson (@MrPaulHudson) has been writing for Elite Daily nearly since the start. Currently located in Manhattan, Paul Hudson primarily devotes his time between writing for Elite Daily and a mining startup in Turkey. He loves sharing his life experiences with his readers and makes sure to practice what he preaches.

More In Life

Also On Elite

World

Kids Cry Tears Of Joy When They Are Reunited With Their Missing Cat (Video)

Usually, when a child’s pet goes missing, the parents are tasked with crafting an elaborate lie detailing where, exactly, Fluffy went. There’s an age when kids can see through the bullsh*t, though, and that’s when things get tough for everyone involved. Nobody wants to tell a kid that the precious family kitty escaped into a […]

Politics

Rhode Island Governor Candidate Smokes Marijuana During Her Campaign Ad

Anne Armstrong is a write-in candidate for Rhode Island’s gubernatorial race. A marijuana dispenser and patient herself, Armstrong’s primary objective is revealed in this recent campaign ad. She has dedicated her entire platform to debunking the stigmas attached to marijuana and making it available for all. She says in her video, We’ve been lied to […]

Life

5 Non-English Majors That Will Make You A Better Writer

Like many hopeful writers, I majored in English. I brushed off the comments about the degree’s lack of marketability and ignored people who asked if I planned to “just be an English teacher.” It was trying at times, especially when it made me forget what “pleasure reading” even meant, but I don’t regret my degree […]

Life

To The People Who Still Feel The Need To Be In A Facebook Relationship: Stop

Dear desperate attention seeker: I just have one question for you: WHY?! Why do you think you need to alert the world with one little status that you are in a relationship with another hyperlinked person? Is there nothing sacred anymore? Do you really need to validate your relationship with this little insignificant setting? How […]