Make an everyday to-do list.
Sometimes recovering from whatever it is that has you down is really f*cking hard to do. If you’re feeling so down that it’s hard to get out of bed and get started with your day every morning, make an everyday to-do list. It may sound petty and stupid, but it also might drastically improve your quality of life.
Getting yourself motivated to do anything when your mind is totally consumed with overwhelming negative thoughts can become a challenge to conquer every single day. Instead of focusing on the bad, an everyday to-do list gives you a handful of things to focus on day-in and day-out. Mine looks a little something like this:
1. Maintain a positive mind. Look on the bright side of negative situations.
2. Remove the word “hate” from your vocabulary. Is there anything worth so much negative emotion, anyway?
3. Forget revenge. Feel bad for those who bring you down — karma comes back around.
4. Make someone smile. It’s uplifting to know that you’ve made someone’s day just a little bit better.
5. Look for the good in people. Use their likenesses as motivation to better yourself.
Out with the bad; In with the good.
What is it that’s weighing you down? Is it your own mind, or is it some outside factor? Is it controllable? Many times, the things that have the greatest impact are within our control. If you’ve hit the bottom and there is clearly something you can do about it, what the hell are you waiting for? People will come and go in your life.
If there are bad people making a mess of your life and affecting your happiness, say goodbye. The number one person in life is yourself. If you don’t have happiness, then what do you have? Even if the negative factors aren’t physical people, the negative might be some other controllable situation like your current job or place in life. Make changes; sometimes change is good and should be embraced. If you absolutely dread going to work in the morning, find another job.
Even if your finances take a temporary hit, so be it. Money does not equal happiness. If you’re not happy with where you are in life, figure out where it is you want to be. You must first discover yourself and what you want from this life before you can enjoy it. Dismiss the bad, and embrace all of the good that this world has to offer.
Focus on yourself.
Rather than focusing your attention on the negative sh*t that’s keeping you on the bottom, focus on bettering yourself. If you have a negative mind, you’re going to have a negative life. Worry about getting healthy: mind, body and soul. Start working out if you don’t already. Working out not only improves your bodily health, but it energizes your mind, too.
If you’re feeling good about the way you look, you have a better self-esteem, which leads to a more positive outlook on life. Get a new haircut, go on a date, spend time with your family or go on a weekend vacation. Worry about bouncing back up from the low, rather than the low itself.
Stop waiting; Start doing.
Stop waiting for the next big thing to happen. If you’re living in the past, or looking forward to the future, you’re not living right. Live in the present and embrace all that you have to be grateful for. If nothing else, you’re alive and reading this, and that’s something to be thankful for. Stop looking back, stop looking forward and start working on the present.
You cannot change past mistakes or regrets; you cannot predict or alter what’s going to happen next. You can only make the most out of this moment, so make it a f*cking good one.
It’s always darkest before the dawn. I live by this proverb, and it’s a constant reminder that no matter what situation is at hand, there’s always brightness ahead. No matter what you’re going through, it’s not going to last forever, and it’s not going to define who you are, or the life that you are living. Overcoming hardships is just a part of life. Sometimes mourning is necessary, but don’t linger. You have to let go. Let go of whatever is weighing you down, and move on with your life.
Life throws you curves, but you learn to swerve. In the end, you will get out of whatever sh*thole you’re in right now, and you will come out on top. Keep swervin’ friends.