The Difference Between The Dreamers Who Become Doers And Those Who Stay Daydreamers
Dreams, while critically important and rather pleasant, can be toxic. It's not so much the dreams themselves that ruin lives, but the process of dreaming and how such a process affects the rest of a person's life. Dreaming is addicting.
It gives us delusions of grandeur. It allows us to visualize the highly unlikely, the nearly impossible. It allows us to push our imaginations and concoct possibilities for ourselves that others would never imagine for us.
That's what dreaming really does: It allows us to regularly deem ourselves of value – it's reminding ourselves that we are capable individuals and that we can live the life that we would love to live. We dream ourselves doing something, achieving something and we ascertain that it is a logical possibility for our future.
We tell ourselves that these visions are possible, motivating ourselves to go and pursue these dreams. Or, at least, that's how they are supposed to work. If only we weren't completely human.
In reality, dreaming doesn't do anything other than allow you to engage the possibilities of the future. Dreams aren't tangible objects that exist outside of our minds – they are only thoughts. Dreaming does nothing.
The only thing that produces any results of any kind is action. Sadly, dreamers get nowhere in life without becoming doers. To dream is to find a future possibility and to do is to take that idea, take that concept, take that possibility and turn it into reality.
Doing is finding a reality that you deem suitable and parking your ass in it – simple as that. Well, not that simple really. Doing is never easy because knowing exactly what to do isn't readily available to us. For this, we once again have to go back to being dreamers.
Dreaming and doing go hand-in-hand – without one, there is no true use for the other. However, many get stuck in dream state and never actually get to the part where they get up and create change.
Dreaming is incredibly appealing because it allows our imaginations to run rampant and take a peek at all things possible (and impossible). Dreaming makes everything and anything available to us.
Reality, on the other hand, is a bit crueler. Realities are stubborn – they like to stay as they are, avoiding change whenever possible. They do their best to avoid changing and cause friction, making it difficult to turn a dream into a reality through action.
We push against reality, against the odds, against all those telling us that we're crazy for even dreaming our dreams, and reality does it's best not to budge. What does this mean to us? It means that actually doing and creating change is a whole lot of work.
And, as you very well know, we don't like to do work. Working is exerting – it takes energy and focus. Dreaming, in comparison, can – and often is – done while sitting, standing or lying in place.
On one hand, we have dreaming, which is pleasant, mutable, gratifying and enjoyable, while, on the other, we have doing, which is difficult, usually unpleasant, tiring and – the worst part – not always fruitful.
Being a dreamer guarantees that you successfully dream. Being a doer, however, doesn't guarantee anything other than attempting.
It's this attempting that is of greatest importance because only when we attempt to create change, to put our dreams into motion and make them a reality, do we learn how to fail. Without knowing how to fail, it's nearly impossible to succeed in turning your dreams into reality.
I'm sorry if you disagree, but in my opinion, dreams are useless unless we plan on acting on them. If you're not going to follow your dreams and do your best to turn them into your reality then why are you even torturing yourself with them in the first place?
You're filling your head with these ideas of grandeur, when every time that you snap out of it, you are surrounded by the same sh*tty situation you have been in for as long as you can remember? Why even bothering dreaming and creating hope when, in fact, there is no hope.
If you haven't yet figured it out, which could very well be the case, that no one will go out there and make your dreams happen for you, then I'm hear to tell you that in this case you are 100 percent on your own.
No one, and I mean no one, will make your dreams come true for you. Why? Because no one gives a sh*t.
People don't care about your dreams. They have dreams of their own. Sure, they may love you and wish for your dreams to come true for you – but wishing is all you're going to get.
Other people aren't going to act on your dreams because they are busy either acting on their own dreams or are busy indulging themselves and avoiding action just like you. If they won't bother to act on making their dreams a reality, why the hell would you think that they'd go out of their way to make yours come true?
If this is the way that you think the world works then you need to wake up and take a good look around you.
You have two choices in life: Either you accept that your life is what it is, that you were dealt and hand and have to stick with it, or you can mix sh*t up, cause some trouble, start a ruckus, get reality to bend to your will. If you're going to live, then be a bit crazy.
Do what others won't do because they're afraid of failing, afraid of looking silly, afraid of being rejected. Don't just sit around all day, every day wondering what if.
The only way to answer that question is by actually doing and seeing what results you get. We assume too much in life and are curious about far too little.
Things aren't always as they seem – you never really bother to look in the first place. Don't just dream, please. The world is in the state it is because we have too many dreamers who aren't doers and too many doers who aren't dreamers. Become both and the world will be yours.
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