• Arielle Lana LeJarde on Digital Generation

    Why You Shouldn't Go Out With A Guy You Don't Have Good ‘Text Chemistry' With

    Why You Shouldn't Go Out With A Guy You Don't Have Good ‘Text Chemistry' With

    Dating apps are definitely my shit, but talking to so many guys at the same time can get really exhausting. Thankfully, I'm now dating someone worth deleting all six of the dating apps I was using, but it was only two weeks ago that I was obsessively swiping and messaging tons of guys. What I learned from talking to […]
  • Arielle Lana LeJarde on Love Hurts

    How Joining A Sorority Made Me Confident In Dating

    How Joining A Sorority Made Me Confident In Dating

    Going up and talking to people has never been easy for me, so moving back to New York from California on my own meant that I had NO FRIENDS for a while. So once I started college, in my very first semester of freshman year, I got this brilliant idea to join a sorority. The only […]
  • Arielle Lana LeJarde on Digital Generation

    Tinder's New Podcast Explores All The WTF Realities Of Being Single Right Now

    Tinder's New Podcast Explores All The WTF Realities Of Being Single Right Now

    When Tinder first came out, swiping left and right seemed like a perfectly simple way to rack up mad dates and find love. But I think we've quickly learned that's not always the case. You can go on 100,000 Tinder dates a month and still not have a boyfriend to show for them. Giphy Luckily, the dating app isn't leaving […]
  • Arielle Lana LeJarde in Dating

    Why I'll Choose ‘Mild Love' Over A Passionate Relationship Any Day

    Why I'll Choose ‘Mild Love' Over A Passionate Relationship Any Day

    I've been the girl who's stayed with a guy longer than I should have because I thought I was in love. Looking back at that situation, I actually had never been so unsure of where I stood with a guy. While I had really strong, intensely passionate feelings for him, the times I wasn't with him felt like […]
  • Arielle Lana LeJarde on Love Hurts

    9 Cringe-Worthy OKCupid Messages I Got After Making My Profile More ‘Serious'

    9 Cringe-Worthy OKCupid Messages I Got After Making My Profile More ‘Serious'

    I like to consider myself the Michael Jordan of dating apps. I'm just really good at selling myself to random dudes online. My best guy friend actually met his current girlfriend because of a Tinder profile I set up for him. I picked his photos, wrote his bio and everything. Hopefully, all that good karma […]
  • Arielle Lana LeJarde in Dating

    I Was An Ugly Duckling In Middle School, And It Still Affects Me

    I Was An Ugly Duckling In Middle School, And It Still Affects Me

    Nobody knew my name growing up. I was always known as “so-and-so's friend” and that ate me alive. My friends were beautiful, skinny Asian dolls and I felt like a short, fat freak next to them. I can't deny that I was jealous. I wanted to be the one who guys liked. I wanted to be the […]
  • Arielle Lana LeJarde on Let's Talk About Sex

    Why I Think Waiting To Have Sex Is Stupid, But I Need To Do It Anyway

    Why I Think Waiting To Have Sex Is Stupid, But I Need To Do It Anyway

    If I could just have sex with guys I like on the first date without having to worry if they'll text me back, I would. But at my age and in our hookup culture, you never know if someone's only looking to have sex or if they want an actual relationship. I'm one of those ~crazy~ people […]
  • Arielle Lana LeJarde on Love Hurts

    I Reached Out To An Ex I Was Angry With In Order To Move On

    I Reached Out To An Ex I Was Angry With In Order To Move On

    Right now, I'm the most single I've ever been. I'm not dating anyone, I'm not trying to date anyone and I recently cut out everybody I was talking to because I want to focus on me. The last ~potential~ relationship I had was a mess. We crashed and burned faster than you can count to 10, and […]
  • Arielle Lana LeJarde on Like An Adult

    Why Compromising In Your Relationship Doesn't Mean You're ‘Settling'

    Why Compromising In Your Relationship Doesn't Mean You're ‘Settling'

    As world-renowned sex and love guru Dan Savage puts it: “If you have a list of deal-breakers that has more than five things on it, you do need to wait around to get a sex robot. There's no settling down without some settling for.” Savage calls this theory “the price of admission.” It essentially means you have to […]
  • Arielle Lana LeJarde on Love Hurts

    Why You Can't Be Racist Or Sexist Anymore If You're Trying To Date, Survey Says

    Why You Can't Be Racist Or Sexist Anymore If You're Trying To Date, Survey Says

    After last Tuesday night, I honestly thought all hope in humanity was lost. How could the people of America actually let a racist, sexist sexual offender become the president of the United States of America? I know it's annoying to hear people continuously complain about the election results, but I don't know if I'll ever get over […]
  • Arielle Lana LeJarde on Love Hurts

  • Arielle Lana LeJarde on Love Hurts

    An Open Letter To The Guy Who Said He Wasn't Using Me For Sex

    An Open Letter To The Guy Who Said He Wasn't Using Me For Sex

    To the guy who said he wasn't using me for sex, burn in hell. I didn't wait 10 months to get over my last breakup just to have sex with some guy who lied straight to my face for weeks. People can like casual sex, and that's fine, but that wasn't what I was looking […]