• Sara Caliva on Family Comes First

    4 Specific Emotions Only Women With Sisters Can Understand

    4 Specific Emotions Only Women With Sisters Can Understand

    A few summers ago, my sister and I had been regularly hanging out with a group of friends. One of the guys in the group usually brought his brother out with us too, so we were a little surprised when said brother didn't show up one night. We pressed our friend for an explanation, which […]
  • Sara Caliva in Dating

    Why A Guy Being Jealous Doesn't Actually Prove He Cares About You

    Why A Guy Being Jealous Doesn't Actually Prove He Cares About You

    I used to think the key to knowing a guy cared about me was how jealous he would get over another dude. Most likely, watching too many fairytales – coupled with my bizarre obsession with duels – was the cause of this highly misinformed theory. I mean, let's be honest: Challenging someone to a duel […]
  • Sara Caliva on Love Hurts

    Why Drastically Changing Your Hair Is Exactly What You Need After A Breakup

    Why Drastically Changing Your Hair Is Exactly What You Need After A Breakup

    All my life, I have directly linked feeling free with doing something slightly impulsive. That goes for when I'm feeling hurt or lost especially. I don't do anything too crazy — just enough to make me feel like I'm Elphaba “defying gravity”… without the whole “being green” or “being a witch” thing. That usually means, after […]
  • Sara Caliva in Dating

    3 Chivalrous Things A Guy Should Always Do On A First Date And 3 To Avoid

    3 Chivalrous Things A Guy Should Always Do On A First Date And 3 To Avoid

    The more I go on first dates, the more I find myself making mental lists of things I will and won't put up with. OK, I'll be honest, I'm talking about actual pro-con lists that I write down on napkins while my date is in the bathroom. Giphy Don't judge, you try going on as many […]
  • Sara Caliva in Life

    5 Ways Being Single Is The Best Thing To Happen To Your Career

    5 Ways Being Single Is The Best Thing To Happen To Your Career

    Every job I have ever had, at some point or another, took a backseat to my relationship. This doesn't mean I have never achieved career success. It just feels impossible to thrive at work while juggling the scheduling and drama that comes with a relationship. Sometimes I felt like Anne Hathaway in the Devil Wears Prada. I had […]
  • Sara Caliva on New Year, New You

    Why My Goals In 2017 Don't Include Finding Love

    Why My Goals In 2017 Don't Include Finding Love

    Yes, 2016 was a bitch of a year. We've had countless celebrities pass away, an election that feels devastating for many of us, horrible violence against each other in this country, horrible violence in other countries and the list goes on. The year 2016 is (thankfully) ending, and I know it's on all of our […]
  • Sara Caliva in Life

    Everything I Want To Say To The Man Who Decided To Follow Me Home

    Everything I Want To Say To The Man Who Decided To Follow Me Home

    I hate being scared. I know many people say it's normal and it keeps you alert, and I'm sure that's true, but I hate it nonetheless. I force myself to take elevators even though I'm claustrophobic because I hate when fear wins. I look down when I'm up high even if it makes me dizzy […]
  • Why I Begrudgingly Decided To Vote For Hillary Clinton

    Why I Begrudgingly Decided To Vote For Hillary Clinton

    Roughly two weeks ago, I had an epiphany while driving. I realized that I'm going to vote for Hillary Clinton. As someone who was raised to follow God first and then the elephant, this was a pretty unnerving conclusion. But, for the first time since I learned that Hillary was running for president, I am […]
  • Sara Caliva in Dating

    I Dated A Nice Guy After An Abusive Relationship, But He Didn't ‘Save' Me

    I Dated A Nice Guy After An Abusive Relationship, But He Didn't ‘Save' Me

    It started with a three-hour date, which consisted mainly of my taking his phone and then awkwardly staring at his features while making him a Bitmoji. It ended a couple of months later with a brief text conversation and wishing each other well. It was perfect. Three months after my abusive relationship, I met a […]
  • Sara Caliva on Lean In

    This Is What Wearing My Headphones Means To Me, As A Woman

    This Is What Wearing My Headphones Means To Me, As A Woman

    I'm a woman. I'm an entrepreneur. I'm a daughter, sister, neighbor and I am a friend. And quite frequently, being all of those things can be exhausting. That's not to say that I don't love who I am or the people in my life, but sometimes I need to block out the noises around me. […]
  • Sara Caliva in Dating

    5 Reasons A Mojito Is The Perfect Drink To Order On A First Date

    5 Reasons A Mojito Is The Perfect Drink To Order On A First Date

    I like to consider myself a bit of a mojito connoisseur, which really means I like to drink them a lot. I'll always order one at a new restaurant, just to see if it's up to snuff. I'm actually not a huge fan of rum, but I absolutely love the taste of a mojito. It's […]
  • Sara Caliva on Love Hurts

    Why I'm Happy My Ex Married The Woman He Cheated on Me With

    Why I'm Happy My Ex Married The Woman He Cheated on Me With

    I can't pretend that I wasn't pretty upset when I first found out that the man I'd always thought I was going to marry was walking down the aisle with someone else. And not just anyone, but the woman that he had cheated on me with. The woman that helped him shatter my rose-colored-glasses world. Facebook […]