• Zara Barrie on Let's Talk About Sex

    This Is Your Naughtiest Sexual Fetish, Based On Your Personality Type

    This Is Your Naughtiest Sexual Fetish, Based On Your Personality Type

    For the longest time, I couldn’t figure out why I liked to be so fiercely dominated in the bedroom. I mean, I’m a very assertive woman! I get off on being in control of my own life. I’m my own boss, and I’ve been described as ambitious from the time I was a greasy-faced, twerpy adolescent. […]
  • Zara Barrie on Beauty Bag

    10 Ways To Turn Your Pale Winter Complexion Into A Summer Glow Without Tanning

    10 Ways To Turn Your Pale Winter Complexion Into A Summer Glow Without Tanning

    I don’t know how it happened, and I don’t know when it happened, but spring has sprung, darlings. I went on a plane to Florida two weeks ago, and I clearly remember furiously dragging my suitcase through the icy streets of Manhattan as I shivered, waiting for a taxi to take me to the airport. […]
  • Zara Barrie on Mental Health

    30 Toxic Relationships You Need To Cut Out Of Your Life By 30

    30 Toxic Relationships You Need To Cut Out Of Your Life By 30

    I used to secretly pride myself in how dynamic and multifaceted my eclectic group of “friends” was. I was that girl who let anyone and everyone into her orbit. I rubbed elbows with teenage junkies, called emotionally abusive, misogynistic boy creatures my “friends” and had a slew of melodramatic, narcissistic people in my life who […]
  • Zara Barrie on Mental Health

    5 Ways To Escape Your Anxiety-Ridden Mind Without Self-Medicating

    5 Ways To Escape Your Anxiety-Ridden Mind Without Self-Medicating

    I used to be so intensely anxious all of the time that I would pop benzodiazepines into my mouth like they were breath mints. “Benzodiazepines” are in the Xanax, Klonopin and Valium family of psychotropic drugs. They’re used to treat anxiety disorder and panic attacks. Those of us hip to pill slang refer to them as “benzos” […]
  • Zara Barrie on Mental Health

    5 Signs It’s Time For You To Break Up With Your Therapist

    5 Signs It’s Time For You To Break Up With Your Therapist

    After reading this headline, you’re probably thinking to yourself, “Signs it’s time to dump your therapist? Who does this bitch think she is?” Maybe you’re a therapist yourself, or you’re the protective child of a fabulous therapist. But please, before you get upset, allow me to add this disclaimer: I’m not a therapist-shamer. No one […]
  • Zara Barrie on Mental Health

    5 Signs It Might Be Time To Try Antidepressants If Nothing Else Is Working

    5 Signs It Might Be Time To Try Antidepressants If Nothing Else Is Working

    There is such a stigma in our culture surrounding antidepressants that for years, I didn’t tell anyone I was taking them to treat my major depressive disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve kept my mouth shut as I’ve even listened to my own friends rail against antidepressants. The stigma of […]
  • Zara Barrie on Queer Culture

    We’re All Great At Oral: 7 Myths About Lesbian Sex, Debunked By A Lesbian

    We’re All Great At Oral: 7 Myths About Lesbian Sex, Debunked By A Lesbian

    “My boyfriend does not know how to go down on me AT ALL,”  said my friend Lola*. “He just sticks his massive face in between my legs and devours my vagina like it’s a jelly goddamn donut. It’s not even remotely enjoyable.” “Don’t even get me started. My boyfriend won’t go down on me unless he’s blackout drunk,” […]
  • Zara Barrie on Beauty Bag

    9 Embarrassing, Gross Secrets Only Your Longtime Hairdresser Knows About You

    9 Embarrassing, Gross Secrets Only Your Longtime Hairdresser Knows About You

    I met my hairstylist Owen Gould at a high school party in 2003. I was wearing ripped fishnet stockings, chunky platform Mary Janes and hideous sparkly eyeshadow. Pimples were scattered across my oily forehead, and eyeliner was smeared across my face. But, I didn’t care. I was 16, and the world was my oyster. “So, what do […]
  • Zara Barrie on Mental Health

    The Terrifying Moment You Realize You’ve Spent Your Whole Life Drunk Or Hungover

    The Terrifying Moment You Realize You’ve Spent Your Whole Life Drunk Or Hungover

    The first time I ever got wasted, I was a skinny adolescent living in the affluent suburbs of Connecticut. It was New Year’s Eve, and we had just raided Lilly’s* parents’ liquor cabinet… because we were bored adolescents living in suburban Connecticut. Like, what else were we going to do on New Year’s Eve? It […]
  • Zara Barrie on Beauty Bag

    I Got Lip Injections To Feel Less Depressed, And It Actually Worked

    I Got Lip Injections To Feel Less Depressed, And It Actually Worked

    “Mom, don’t get mad, but I’ve decided to get lip injections,” I boasted over the phone to my lovely English mother. I was pacing around my brother’s Los Angeles apartment in hot pink Betsy Johnson leopard-print pajamas with last night’s eyeliner smudged across my sore, swollen eyes. I was feeling reckless and hungover, and whenever […]
  • Zara Barrie on Mental Health

    30 Things I Learned About Mental Health That Everyone Should Know By 30

    30 Things I Learned About Mental Health That Everyone Should Know By 30

    Today, I’m going to bestow all of you 20-something vixens with a very important PSA: Don’t believe anything you see, read or hear about life in your 20s from people who are out of their 20s. They’ve blocked out the dismal reality of their 20th decade and have replaced the dark, screwy memories with a […]
  • Zara Barrie on Just The Way You Are

    Why Alpha Females Are Actually The Most Sensitive People On The Planet

    Why Alpha Females Are Actually The Most Sensitive People On The Planet

    Anytime anyone refers to me as an “alpha female,” I fall ill with an irrepressible bout of imposter syndrome. I’m the type of lady who can’t hold back either, so I’ll usually dramatically scream, “NO. I’m NOT an alpha female!” to any innocent person who has accused me of such. I’ll take a deep breath, […]