• Zara Barrie on Family Comes First

    6 Ways Your Relationship With Your Parents Changes From Your 20s To Your 30s

    6 Ways Your Relationship With Your Parents Changes From Your 20s To Your 30s

    I’ve always had an incredibly close, wildly emotional, deeply-loaded relationship with my parents. Real talk: I wasn’t the easiest kid in the world to raise. As a teenager, I was a complicated closeted lesbian who secretly abused hard drugs and alcohol. I smoked cigarettes out the window of my bedroom, and would hotbox my closet. […]
  • Zara Barrie on Beauty Bag

    30 Horrendous Beauty Mistakes I Made In My 20s That I’m Leaving Behind In My 30s

    30 Horrendous Beauty Mistakes I Made In My 20s That I’m Leaving Behind In My 30s

    Honey, when I was in my 20s, I made all kinds of terrible, thoughtless, wildly immature mistakes. A shiver goes down my spine when I think about all the shame-spiraling things I did in that gorgeously reckless decade. I slept with spineless losers (the kind of animals who have towels for bed sheets) because I […]
  • Zara Barrie on Just The Way You Are

    5 Signs You’re A Former Party Girl, And It’s As Comforting As It Is Scary

    5 Signs You’re A Former Party Girl, And It’s As Comforting As It Is Scary

    “Why the HELL do you have to set the alarm for 4:30 am?” my brother screamed. “Blake! I have to be at a WORK MEETING at 11 in the MORNING you asshole! I have CAREER!” I screamed back at him, hitting “snooze.” I was sleeping on a slowly deflating air mattress next to his bed […]
  • Zara Barrie on Just The Way You Are

    How Not Drinking For A Month Completely Changed My Toxic Relationship With Food

    How Not Drinking For A Month Completely Changed My Toxic Relationship With Food

    “I’m soooo doing dry January!” my best friend Ruba slurred to me, polishing off her fifth glass of wine. We were at a cute little bar on the lower east side of Manhattan, feeling cozy, tucked into a velvet couch by a flickering little fireplace, safe from the cold urban tundra blustering outside. “Me too!” […]
  • Zara Barrie in Culture

    Why You Don’t Have To Choose Between Being A Party Girl And A Girl Boss

    Why You Don’t Have To Choose Between Being A Party Girl And A Girl Boss

    Contrary to popular belief, you can be both a wild, outrageous, champagne-swilling, ripped-fishnet-wearing, bright-red-lipstick-sporting, shiny-black-leather-quilted-Chanel-bag-clutching, reigning queen of the dance floor, fiercely fabulous party girl…. and a hyper-successful girl boss all at once. Yes, charismatic party girl with sky high ambitions: I’m looking right at YOU, babes. Like, where did these stifling restraints even come from? It’s […]
  • Zara Barrie on Love Hurts

    A Step-By-Step Guide To Having The Best Singles Night Out On Valentine’s Day

    A Step-By-Step Guide To Having The Best Singles Night Out On Valentine’s Day

    I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, baby! There is NO BETTER night to go out on the town and strut your stuff than on Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is particularly fierce if you’re single. And honestly, being in a relationship on Valentine’s Day is boring! I mean, how many tired, candlelit dinners can […]
  • Zara Barrie on Love Hurts

    The 30 Non-Negotiable Qualities People I Date Must Have Now That I’m 30

    The 30 Non-Negotiable Qualities People I Date Must Have Now That I’m 30

    Recently, it’s come to my attention that I have actual standards when it comes to dating. (It only took me 30 years, but hey, I’m a late bloomer, baby.) It’s also come to my attention that my “standards” in my messy, boozy, druggy, eating-disordered, sexually confused, traumatic, dangerous 20s were more like red flags. Oh, […]
  • Zara Barrie in Dating

    People Gave These Insane Valentines 100 Years Ago And You Can’t Even Get A Text Back

    People Gave These Insane Valentines 100 Years Ago And You Can’t Even Get A Text Back

    When I think of Valentine’s Day, I think of pink, plastic hearts with red glitter, fishnet stockings, red lipstick, Champagne, one-night stands and waiting for messages from a douchebag who won’t text you back. However, if you were to venture back about a century, you’d find that good, old Valentine’s Day was apparently an intensely romantic affair. Don’t believe […]
  • Zara Barrie on Let's Talk About Sex

    The 5 Hottest Sex Positions For Steamy Valentine’s Day Sex, According To An Expert

    The 5 Hottest Sex Positions For Steamy Valentine’s Day Sex, According To An Expert

    Valentine’s Day is not only the day for LOVE (contrary to the beliefs of the prim and the prude). No, this day is for hot sex, you dirty, little minx! There is no sex like Valentine’s Day sex, you know? And I’m not the only who feels that way. According to Elite Daily’s own Valentine’s Day reader survey, only […]
  • Zara Barrie on Love Hurts

    I Didn’t Love My Partner, But I Pretended I Did For The Sake Of Valentine’s Day

    I Didn’t Love My Partner, But I Pretended I Did For The Sake Of Valentine’s Day

    If you’re single on Valentine’s Day, you’re allowed to be bitter and twisted and indulge in your loneliness and blackout drink. But if you’re in a relationship, Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a day of *bliss.* You’re one of the Lucky Ones. In fact, according to Elite Daily’s Valentine’s Day reader survey, the majority of women […]
  • Zara Barrie on Science Says

    Science Confirms Depressed People Need Even More Love In Their Relationships

    Science Confirms Depressed People Need Even More Love In Their Relationships

    Check this out: According to a new study from the University of Alberta (I LOVE Canada, don’t you?) the more depressed your bae is, the more love and affection they need from YOU. I love when science confirms what I’ve always known in my heart to be true. It’s SO gratifying! I can feel my […]
  • Zara Barrie on Your Weekend PSA

    Don’t ‘Diet’ During The Days Leading Up To A Date

    Don’t ‘Diet’ During The Days Leading Up To A Date

    Let’s not waste time. This weekend PSA is so painfully real and happens all too often, so I feel VERY strongly about it. So here it is: Don’t diet on the days leading up to a date. Drinking, dieting and dating is a terrible idea.  Look, if you’re one of those amazing girl creatures who […]