• Zara Barrie on Beauty Bag

    9 Embarrassing, Gross Secrets Only Your Longtime Hairdresser Knows About You

    9 Embarrassing, Gross Secrets Only Your Longtime Hairdresser Knows About You

    I met my hairstylist Owen Gould at a high school party in 2003. I was wearing ripped fishnet stockings, chunky platform Mary Janes and hideous sparkly eyeshadow. Pimples were scattered across my oily forehead, and eyeliner was smeared across my face. But, I didn’t care. I was 16, and the world was my oyster. “So, what do […]
  • Zara Barrie on Mental Health

    The Terrifying Moment You Realize You’ve Spent Your Whole Life Drunk Or Hungover

    The Terrifying Moment You Realize You’ve Spent Your Whole Life Drunk Or Hungover

    The first time I ever got wasted, I was a skinny adolescent living in the affluent suburbs of Connecticut. It was New Year’s Eve, and we had just raided Lilly’s* parents’ liquor cabinet… because we were bored adolescents living in suburban Connecticut. Like, what else were we going to do on New Year’s Eve? It […]
  • Zara Barrie on Beauty Bag

    I Got Lip Injections To Feel Less Depressed, And It Actually Worked

    I Got Lip Injections To Feel Less Depressed, And It Actually Worked

    “Mom, don’t get mad, but I’ve decided to get lip injections,” I boasted over the phone to my lovely English mother. I was pacing around my brother’s Los Angeles apartment in hot pink Betsy Johnson leopard-print pajamas with last night’s eyeliner smudged across my sore, swollen eyes. I was feeling reckless and hungover, and whenever […]
  • Zara Barrie on Mental Health

    30 Things I Learned About Mental Health That Everyone Should Know By 30

    30 Things I Learned About Mental Health That Everyone Should Know By 30

    Today, I’m going to bestow all of you 20-something vixens with a very important PSA: Don’t believe anything you see, read or hear about life in your 20s from people who are out of their 20s. They’ve blocked out the dismal reality of their 20th decade and have replaced the dark, screwy memories with a […]
  • Zara Barrie on Just The Way You Are

    Why Alpha Females Are Actually The Most Sensitive People On The Planet

    Why Alpha Females Are Actually The Most Sensitive People On The Planet

    Anytime anyone refers to me as an “alpha female,” I fall ill with an irrepressible bout of imposter syndrome. I’m the type of lady who can’t hold back either, so I’ll usually dramatically scream, “NO. I’m NOT an alpha female!” to any innocent person who has accused me of such. I’ll take a deep breath, […]
  • Zara Barrie on Queer Culture

    I Date Women Like My Dad: 5 ‘Straight Girl Issues’ I Have Even Though I’m A Lesbian

    I Date Women Like My Dad: 5 ‘Straight Girl Issues’ I Have Even Though I’m A Lesbian

    “Oh, I never worry about sleeping with a girl after the first date!” I bitchily purred to my straight friends one hungover Sunday afternoon. “Lesbians don’t slut shame each other the same way men do to women.” I had caught them exchanging worried glances after I’d revealed I had fucked a girl (who I REALLY liked) on […]
  • Zara Barrie on Family Comes First

    6 Ways Your Relationship With Your Parents Changes From Your 20s To Your 30s

    6 Ways Your Relationship With Your Parents Changes From Your 20s To Your 30s

    I’ve always had an incredibly close, wildly emotional, deeply-loaded relationship with my parents. Real talk: I wasn’t the easiest kid in the world to raise. As a teenager, I was a complicated closeted lesbian who secretly abused hard drugs and alcohol. I smoked cigarettes out the window of my bedroom, and would hotbox my closet. […]
  • Zara Barrie on Beauty Bag

    30 Horrendous Beauty Mistakes I Made In My 20s That I’m Leaving Behind In My 30s

    30 Horrendous Beauty Mistakes I Made In My 20s That I’m Leaving Behind In My 30s

    Honey, when I was in my 20s, I made all kinds of terrible, thoughtless, wildly immature mistakes. A shiver goes down my spine when I think about all the shame-spiraling things I did in that gorgeously reckless decade. I slept with spineless losers (the kind of animals who have towels for bed sheets) because I […]
  • Zara Barrie on Just The Way You Are

    5 Signs You’re A Former Party Girl, And It’s As Comforting As It Is Scary

    5 Signs You’re A Former Party Girl, And It’s As Comforting As It Is Scary

    “Why the HELL do you have to set the alarm for 4:30 am?” my brother screamed. “Blake! I have to be at a WORK MEETING at 11 in the MORNING you asshole! I have CAREER!” I screamed back at him, hitting “snooze.” I was sleeping on a slowly deflating air mattress next to his bed […]
  • Zara Barrie on Just The Way You Are

    How Not Drinking For A Month Completely Changed My Toxic Relationship With Food

    How Not Drinking For A Month Completely Changed My Toxic Relationship With Food

    “I’m soooo doing dry January!” my best friend Ruba slurred to me, polishing off her fifth glass of wine. We were at a cute little bar on the lower east side of Manhattan, feeling cozy, tucked into a velvet couch by a flickering little fireplace, safe from the cold urban tundra blustering outside. “Me too!” […]
  • Zara Barrie in Culture

    Why You Don’t Have To Choose Between Being A Party Girl And A Girl Boss

    Why You Don’t Have To Choose Between Being A Party Girl And A Girl Boss

    Contrary to popular belief, you can be both a wild, outrageous, champagne-swilling, ripped-fishnet-wearing, bright-red-lipstick-sporting, shiny-black-leather-quilted-Chanel-bag-clutching, reigning queen of the dance floor, fiercely fabulous party girl…. and a hyper-successful girl boss all at once. Yes, charismatic party girl with sky high ambitions: I’m looking right at YOU, babes. Like, where did these stifling restraints even come from? It’s […]
  • Zara Barrie on Love Hurts

    A Step-By-Step Guide To Having The Best Singles Night Out On Valentine’s Day

    A Step-By-Step Guide To Having The Best Singles Night Out On Valentine’s Day

    I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, baby! There is NO BETTER night to go out on the town and strut your stuff than on Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is particularly fierce if you’re single. And honestly, being in a relationship on Valentine’s Day is boring! I mean, how many tired, candlelit dinners can […]