#IfIWereABoy: 12 Women Share What They’d Do Differently If They Were Treated The Same As Men
When we’re young, we’re told that boys and girls all have the same fair shot to get what they want out of life. We’re taught that everyone has the same right to compete for jobs, and to achieve these dreams.
When we are little, we aren’t jaded enough to believe we can’t aspire to be anything we set our sights on.
But then… we grow up.
We don’t think we’ll ever be fighting for our right to be heard, to have a voice. We don’t realize men in power will decide how, and when, and where we do what we want to our bodies.
We don’t even think that the world will write us a set of different rules.
Twelve Elite Daily employees answered what they would do differently if they were men — if they were truly equal — and every answer was different, unique, inspiring and encouraging — and that’s just the beginning.
“A warm and friendly disposition doesn’t translate to vulnerability. My kind words and personable nature aren’t an invitation to the bedroom.”
“Men aren’t so lucky; they are conditioned from an early age to keep it all inside.”
“Because this is my face and no man gets to tell me what I should do. If I want to smile, I’ll smile. No one has the right to dictate my feelings.”
“Buying a drink is a great way to break the ice, but that doesn’t mean I have an obligation to ‘hook up’ with you in any way. I am more than capable of buying my own drink, thank you.”
“I think if more people took the time to understand the true definition and motives, the word would stop being so ‘ugly.’ There’s nothing ugly about equality.”
“We’re all in this thing together, and we need to help each other understand what makes us different.”
“Sometimes it’s the smaller, everyday gestures that signify respect. Let’s all be mindful of each other.”
“Only I have the right to decide what to do with my own body: the type of birth control I use or when and if I have sex. Boys don’t have to worry about the government deciding whether or not they can have an abortion.”
“Too often, ‘feminine’ qualities — things like sensitivity, empathy and vulnerability — come with negative connotations.
Men suppress these qualities in the name of ‘being a man,’ and they become further devalued. Besides, if I’m gonna throw ‘like a girl,’ it’s gonna be the best damn throw you’ve ever seen.”
“I’ll never get why guys think that constantly posting pictures of Kermit the Frog saying how ‘These hoes ain’t loyal’ is going to result in any female respecting them in the social media world or otherwise.”
“It’s bad enough to be fiercely stared down or cat-called by men, but by far one of the most unacceptable things a man can do is grope a woman against her will. A woman’s body is a temple and men have no right touching it unless there is blatant consent for it.”
“Giving you my number isn’t a green light to text me at 1 am to have a ‘conversation’ or ask me to ‘hang out.’ Really it’s more intriguing for a guy to want to get to know me in person, not through a screen.”
Photos Credit: MF