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Why You Should Follow Your Dreams, Not A Man Who Doesn’t Support Them

Coming from a generation built on fairytales and false expectations, it's not surprising that many of the women of my generation can, at times, be slightly misguided when it comes to life and its timeline.

Too many of us have built up this usually false illusion that life works out in a simple progression: school, job, love, marriage, family and growing old together.

But, where's the part that you work your little butt off until you're the CEO of a Fortune 500 company? (I was always taught to aim high.)

Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore. – Lady Gaga

The Mama Monster couldn't have said it better.

Growing up in a family full of women, my dad always taught us that dreaming big and finding success is something we should want for ourselves. I never wanted to get marry young and I certainly never wanted to have children while I was still a child myself.

I never wanted to give up my dreams for a guy. I never wanted to chase a guy. I never wanted to put a guy's wants and needs before my own. And, I still don't.

I don't believe that finding love requires a person to give up everything — or anything — else in life. A guy who truly loves you will never ask you to sacrifice things you hold dear to appease his own basic need for constant companionship. If he does, you should probably dump him right now.

I like to blame a lot of it on these fantasy dreams that old-school Disney drilled into our heads while we were growing up.

Why does the hero always have to be the guy? Why does the end game always have to include Prince Charming rescuing the damsel in distress?

Well, dammit, I'm my own hero. I'm not a princess who needs to find a prince; I'm my own Queen.

Remembering to put yourself first can be one of the hardest things to do… unless you're narcissistically inclined. Like Ms. Gaga said, what you do and accomplish will never evade you. Knowing you did everything you could to be the best version of you is what counts.

Guys come and go. The lucky ones will stay, but those are the ones who will support you and your dreams. Those are the ones who will push you to follow goals that seem unreachable and scary. Those are the ones with whom you should share your accomplishments because ultimately, you just need to know that you're worth the fight.

The right guy will fight for you and want you to fight for yourself. He’ll know that you’re worth the postponed dinners due to work and the Skype dates because you're far away.

You're worth it all, and if a certain guy can't see it, he doesn't deserve you.

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