Safety First: How To Avoid Falling For An Eternal Bachelor
After having lived in Montreal, Miami Beach, Toronto and Moscow, I am happy to say that I have been fortunate enough to meet men and women from all over the world and various walks of life. I was inspired to write this article after reading the “Girls Who Are Never Getting Married” and “Girls You Should Be Marrying” articles that were posted on Elite Daily recently.
I see a lot of women going for the same type of man who is just not interested in marriage and I hope that after reading this article you will be able to identify whom your Mr. Wrong is and how to avoid him in the future.
The perfect catch
Have you ever met a guy who's tall, dark, handsome, VERY successful and single? You can picture these men in professions such as “hot” doctor, “hot” lawyer, “hot” investor, “hot” restaurant/club owner, “hot” entrepreneur, “hot” fraudster, and the list goes on but you get the idea. These eternal bachelors are usually found at all the best clubs and restaurants hanging out with supermodels and their successful friends.
This guy knows everyone and anyone, but you never see him with the same girl. If this describes the “perfect catch” that you are currently seeing and feel like you've caught a shark, please beware that this shark will most likely bite you in the ass because by the time this gentleman wakes up he is 65 years old and alone.
Guys who like the “bad girl”
These men are a breed that are attracted to the unstable party girls as described in the “Girls who are Never Getting Married” article. This girl takes him on a rollercoaster of sex, drugs, and rock & roll. Sorry good girl but you are just too boring and ordinary for this type. They like their woman unpredictable and unattainable. But what happens to these guys in the end? The bad bitch takes all their money and says, “NEXT!”
No one is good enough for your highness
“All women are crazy!” The “no one is good enough for his highness” type once said. Well, if you find yourself going from woman to woman and all of them are crazy, then maybe you should stop to think for a second and realize that the common denominator amongst these so-called “crazy women” is you.
So maybe YOU are the one who needs to get your brain examined before you end up in your beautiful clean home full of material treasures that you have no one to share with but your lonely self.
Does he still have pictures with his ex-girlfriend on his Facebook that he just can't seem to delete? What about the numerous albums of vacations to Peru and Athens that he took with her? Does he stalk her whole life when you are not around?
If yes, say “bye bye” to “Mr. Ex-Girlfriend Syndrome.” You will not heal him and even if you try, it's really not your job to take on this responsibility nor do you have time to waste on this nonsense.
You don't want to be a rebound or a replacement. No one compares to his wonderful ex who broke his little fragile heart and is now married with kids. Let him go and, if he was truly interested, he will contact you once he is ready to start from zero without the baggage. If he doesn't figure out how to get over his ex-girlfriend obsession he is not likely to be thinking of marriage.
The woman hater/ in depression
Ladies please, I know you are smart and logical but why do you stay with a guy who verbally/physically abuses you and treats you like garbage?
Yes I know he can be mister romance once a month but NEVER forget that if he did it once, he will more than likely do it again and again and AGAIN! Trust me, your heart won't stop beating without him.
You may be thinking “But why is he so angry?” The answer can be for a variety of reasons such as his “evil” ex-girlfriend, depression, drug abuse, low self-esteem, genetic defects in the brain, etc. Your next thought is the following: “Maybe I can get him out of his misery. Maybe if I am exactly what he wants me to be he will change!”
Sorry honey, pigs are not going to be flying anytime soon either. This type of guy will bounce from relationship to relationship that never ends in marriage.
“Hey babe, I'm going to a game with my boys. Babe, I'm sorry but it's boy's night out tonight and we're going to get wasted and ride mechanical bulls all night to rock music.”
Do these statements sound like something your sweetheart would say? If yes, then maybe he is a good guy but is just not ready for anything too serious in the near future.
Keep him as a friend in case he one-day blossoms, but don't have any high expectations. However, he might never blossom and turn to heavy drinking and video games and be alone forever.
Lastly, I would like to wish you all luck to find true love and I promise you, there are men out there who are looking for that connection. In reality, a lot of men are striving for a deep and meaningful relationship, possibly even more men than women look for this, but many are just not strong enough to admit it.
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