As women, we, on average, earn 17.7 percent less than men do. Could this be due, in part, to the fact that men are statistically more inclined to ask for a raise when they want it?

Maybe. I find myself being passive when it comes to business at times, because sometimes (and I don’t know why I feel this way) I feel as if I’m being a bitch if I request something. I need to stop feeling that way, we all do.

Here are some tips on how to ask for that raise you so rightfully deserve:

First of all, recognize your worth. Tell yourself that you are working hard, that you do deserve a raise, that you’re capable of accepting more responsibility. Confidence is the first step in making any stride in business.

Secondly, work for it. No one should ask for a raise if they don’t deserve it, and if you’re unsure as to whether you do deserve a raise or not, go above and beyond. Work extra hard a for a few months prior to asking for more money, and make sure people notice, that way you’ll know you won’t be asking for something out of the question.

Also, make sure a raise is actually possible. Find out how much you’re making vs. how much your co-workers are making. Do you research and calculate what would be an appropriate raise.

When it comes time to ask for that raise, wait for the appropriate time. Particularly when you’ve done a good job on a project or have earned some sort of praise from your boss. This will give your powers of persuasion an extra boost,

Finally, make sure you ask appropriately. Request a meeting with your boss and cite your reasoning for said meeting on discussing your career path. When you’re requesting the raise, make sure you stress the fact that you’ve earned a raise because you’ve added value to the company. Try not to say something along the lines of “I need the money.” That statement can give everyone bad vibes.

If your boss doesn’t agree right away, or doesn’t see eye to eye with you, don’t get upset. Ask if your boss would be willing to compromise, and come back and try again. Burn no bridges and maintain your cool. That will show your boss how serious you really are, and can only open more doors.

Ally | Elite.