What Women Really Want: 10 Traits Men Have That Make Them The Whole Package

As a matchmaker, it’s my job to meet droves of women to get a sense of who they are and what they want in a partner. I can find out more from them in five minutes than most would learn in five dates! Most women think they know what they want, but they really don't.

If you ask a woman what she's looking for in a man, she'll tell you she wants someone tall, dark and handsome. If you look at her relationship history, however, you'll see that's not always true.

Men are visual; they fall in love through their eyes. They’re shallow and superficial. Sorry, guys; you know it’s the truth. Women, on the other hand, fall in love through their ears. We care more about the whole package; we value a man’s personality and how he treats us.

I'm here to tell you that looks aren't so important to all women. Yes, a man's physical appearance is important to some ladies, but most women want more than that.

A nice looking man who is in good shape, dresses well and possesses all of the below characteristics is what we really want! Take a look:

1. Kind And Caring

Women want a man who is kind and caring. We want someone who will be our best friend, a partner and an equal. Above all, we want someone who makes us feel good.

2. Brains, Brains, Brains

Intelligence is sexy and smart men simply captivate women. Whether it’s informing us about the newest restaurant opening or teaching us something we didn’t know about baseball, we like someone from whom we can learn. Women enjoy feeling enlightened.

3. Sense Of Humor

Being funny makes men more attractive to women. There’s no science to it; it’s just a fact. One hundred percent of women appreciate a man who is witty. If you can make a woman laugh, she'll almost always think you're awesome.

4. Confidence

Women like men who are confident. When you're sure of yourself and your actions reflect it, women will be naturally drawn to you. Women are attracted to men who know they're great.

5. Charisma

Charisma is defined as having swagger, being spunky and possessing a certain je ne sais crois, or just not being "vanilla."

Whichever definition you prefer, all women love a charming man. When you have a big personality, women find you irresistible.

6. Balance

Leading a balanced lifestyle is important. Women enjoy dating a man who can do it all. We want to date someone who can prioritize his job, family, friends and a relationship.

We’re drawn to men who make time for us and who show us that we’re an essential part of their lives.

7. Good Listener

A man who is a good listener is a true catch. Because women are more emotional than men, we love to share. We can talk for hours.

We have tons of stories to tell and we want you to listen to all of them. If you can listen to a woman, and I mean genuinely listen, pat yourself on the back.

8. Thoughtfulness

Thoughtful men are enticing for women. Being thoughtful doesn't mean whisking us away to Miami on a third date, either. Although we'd certainly love that, it isn’t necessary! Rather, being thoughtful means showing us that you care.

If we mention we love a certain restaurant, surprise us and plan a date there. If we say we love a particular flower, bring us flowers on the next date. If we tell you we’re eager to see a specific movie or play, get tickets and take us. A man who's considerate is very sexy.

9. Go With The Flow

We want to date someone we can bring anywhere. If we’re at a business dinner, we want to date a man who can go with the flow and be fancy. When clients invite us to a box at a sports game, we want to date someone who can keep up with the lingo.

Quite simply, we enjoy dating men who can be comfortable in any situation.

10. Presentable

Being put together and looking presentable is essential. Women want to date men who are well dressed. A nice outfit can make men so much more attractive! I’m a sucker for a man in a nice suit or button down with a sweater.

If you’re well dressed and put together, you’re showing the world that you value yourself and your appearance. Ultimately, women want to fall in love. We want someone who makes us feel special and important.

Photo Courtesy: Nick Onken