When it comes to body language, most men are thoroughly in the dark. Who can blame them? They’ve never paid attention to it. There are some mistakes that are more common than others, however, and you’d be amazed at how easily you can correct them. Here’s the quick and dirty guide to changing your body language and leveling up your game tonight.
Not Smiling
Smiling is one of the best tools you can have in your kit when it comes to creating an attraction with women. You need to smile with your whole face, not just your mouth. Crinkle the corners of your eyes and draw your cheeks up. Practice this in the mirror a little bit before you head out for the night, and if you need a little help getting in the mood, think of the last thing that made you giggle like a schoolgirl.
Slouching
Slouching projects an unconfident, low-value image to everyone around you. If you don’t think you’re good enough to stand up straight, why should anyone else value you? Practice standing up straight in the mirror while you perfect your smile. When you catch yourself slouching a little, stand up straight again. Try and enter a room with proper posture and a big smile on your face. This will seriously make big changes in terms of the quality and quantity of women that you speak to in a night.
Crossing Your Arms
Fewer things say, “Don’t talk to me,” more than crossing your arms. Rather than doing this, let them hang comfortably by your side. It’s the best way to look natural, comfortable and approachable. Avoid the temptation to put your hands in your pockets -- this is just about as bad. Instead, while you’re practicing your posture, watch how you look with your arms naturally at your sides. Believe me, once you get used to it, you’ll wonder why you ever stood any other way.
Directly Facing People
When you hang out with your friends, how much time is spent with the two of you directly facing each other? Just about none, right? That’s because it’s awkward and creates too much pressure for the both of you. Instead, approach a woman from the side. When you’re talking, turn toward her. When she talks, turn away and lean in to hear her. It will be a lot easier on the both of you.
Eye Contact
It’s good to make eye contact, but not too much. Chances are pretty good that you’re currently not making enough, so try and make sure that you look women directly in the eye when you speak to them, especially when introducing yourself. Later on, try things like looking away every two seconds or so when you speak to her.
No Touching
One of the biggest game changers that you’re going to experience when it comes to getting women to go gaga for you is touching her. There are lots of “safe” places that you can touch a woman, such as her hands, arms and upper back. When you do this, you’re increasing intimacy, but also giving her permission to touch you back. When you do that, it’s game on! You’ll be amazed at how quickly just one little touch can open the floodgates.
