It's first thing in the morning. Your hair is tousled. You're still in bed and haven't showered yet, covered in sweat and cookie crumbs you might have accumulated during the night. (Your bed is covered in cookie crumbs too, right?)
You haven't brushed your teeth yet, and last night's makeup is still smeared across your face.
Yet somehow, you still want to get down,
Why is it that morning sex sometimes seems to feel better, and can even be more fun? Relationship expert Dr. Wendy Walsh told Bustle:
Sometimes, when people are half-asleep or half-awake, it functions a little like how alcohol functions: It lowers some of their inhibitions. When you are inhibited, it means you're feeling overly self-aware. You're worried about what your partner's perceiving. However, when your inhibitions are lowered — whether artificially through alcohol at night, or in the morning through drowsiness — it allows you to get closer to the animal in you. Which is what procreation is ... let the animal rave, let the animal free.
I typically hate morning sex. I don't need my guy to see my boobs flopping around in broad daylight, and I certainly don't need access to their unbrushed teeth. But if there's one thing I know through my dating career, it's that a lot of men seem to love it for some reason.
So to get to the bottom of how other people feel, I decided to ask men their true thoughts about morning sex.
Do guys like morning sex?
I'm not fond of it. I generally find that I'm less 'functional' first thing in the morning, but beyond that, I'm just less in that headspace. I prefer sex after coffee, at least.
— Dan, 37
Generally I am for it. More into weekend morning sex than weekday, but both have their merits.
— Dexter, 34
[No.] It usually wrecks me for the whole rest of the day, so I usually avoid it. Possible factors: I'm 33, married and I don't get any exercise. If I'm hungover, all of the above goes out the window for some reason, and it's game on.
— Anonymous 1
Why? (Or why not?)
I'm more interested in sex when I feel sexy, and I just find that that takes a while to warm up to, as the day goes on.
— Dan, 37
It's fun and low pressure and generally way more sober than night sex, which I think allows for a better connection. I think my favorite thing about it is I feel like I've accomplished something that day before I even got out of bed. It makes me feel productive. It's almost like going to the gym in the morning before work — something I haven't done a single time in my life. If it's a weekday and we go off to work, I like thinking about it to break up the monotony of the day. The girl I'm dating now says it's the only thing that can cure her hangover. And then, you get to go eat brunch while basking in the afterglow.
— Dexter, 34
It's more intimate and calm. It's sleepy and loving. I almost prefer it to night or other times in the day. At night, I'm VERY tired (work and kid), but on the random morning when the baby isn't up and we don't have to get up for work, it's so nice to slowly work into foreplay and then sex.
— Anonymous 2
How does it compare to sex at other times of the day?
Sex at night is something you're just, like, supposed to do, and afternoon sex seems naughty because either you have to go to bed during the one time of day beds go unused, or you do it somewhere else. I think morning sex is somewhere in the middle. There's always an excuse to not do it in the morning (I have to get up and get ready or I'm too hungover), but it's generally a worthwhile venture.
— Dexter, 34
To me, it's more intimate. There's natural light in the room as opposed to nighttime when it's dark. [And] we are both sleepy and waking up slowly.
— Anonymous 2
Does morning breath bother guys?
I've never noticed a problem with morning breath in my partner, but I certainly wouldn't be comfortable getting into a proper snog until I've brushed my teeth.
— Dan, 37
I think it only is if you let it be [a problem]. I think there's usually less kissing in the morning — obviously only talking about sex before tooth-brushing, which can happen if you just roll over and are ready or don't have a tooth brush at this person's house/on your person. But I think it's something both parties are conscious of, and I think more self-conscious of than anything else. If it's someone you've been with for a while, you know they generally don't taste gross, and it's just, like, a little thing you both have to deal with in order to get this nut. It's no big deal.
— Dexter, 34
LOL, no, at least not on my end.
— Anonymous 2
Women, what are your thoughts on morning sex? Love it? Hate it? Let me know in the comments.
