Science Says Your One-Night Stand Might Actually Want To Keep In Touch With You
As a young adult, drunkenly stumbling through your 20s, one-night stands are the thing to have. It's a natural part of your sexual exploration and experimentation, as you find out what you like in bed, without developing an attachment to the person you're sleeping with.
But is boning that random stranger from the a bar still as much fun as it used to be? Or are people looking for a real connection nowadays?
According to statistics pulled from a new DrEd survey, staying in touch after that "one and done" sexual encounter is the new norm.
Of the 1000 people polled (with 500 being American and another 500 being European), close to 60 percent of Americans kept in touch with their one-night stand.
Twenty percent chatted 'em up for a few more days, with 18 percent leaning toward a few weeks later, 11 percent falling under the "few months" category, and 8 percent going for long-term communication.
Chalk it up to a little bit of speculation, but it seems that some people are looking for more than just a place to get off and get out.
If anything, it seems they might want the opportunity to see if their one-off fling could blossom into something more than that.
And maybe, people are staying in touch with their one-night stands to give 'em a second chance in bed.
According to DrEd, not many people — American or European — are super satisfied with their quickies.
More than 38 percent of European men and over 32 percent of American men considered themselves satisfied following their one-night stands, but a measly 16 percent of European women and 18 percent of American women had similar feelings.
Whether things are labeled unsatisfactory because all parties involved were way too drunk or if one person's just in need of some sexual tutoring session is uncertain.
What is certain, though, is the unnecessary stigma that still comes from having a one-night stand.
According to DrEd's survey, a good portion of people (especially those who have never experienced a one-night stand) are quick to judge or label others who find pleasure in a random romp.
Close to 33 percent of European women and 19 percent of European men who've never had a one-night stand would judge someone for having one.
The numbers were even higher on the American side of things, with close to 35 percent of women and 27 percent of men who have never had a one-night stand claiming to be super critical of those who had.
As someone who's never had a full-blown one-night stand in his entire life, I've never shamed a friend for doing so.
I'm perfectly happy with my sex life, and I don't see it necessary to harshly judge someone for something I've never experienced myself. What someone else does in and out of the bedroom (or the park, bushes, or bar bathroom) is up to them and doesn't affect my life.
After all, by the sounds of it, a one-night stand has the potential to turn into way more than just a single night of pleasure.
Just don't knock it 'til you try it.
Citations: One Night Only - How Europeans and Americans Feel About One-Night Stands (DrEd)
