10 Signs Your New Partner Isn't Ready To Be In A Relationship
Dating sucks, and, sometimes, there's no way around it.
After a series of disastrous almost-relationships, you may start to wonder if you're the problem. But rest assured, you're not.
It takes time to find the yin to your yang, and, in the meantime, you're going to have to go through a lot of improper matches.
The key is not getting discouraged.
As long as you're still putting yourself out there and are open to love finding you, then you're doing all the right things.
In the meantime, don't fret about your failed interactions with the wrong people.
The right partner will not be a forced fit. They won't require you to walk on eggshells or constantly keep up a persona.
To help you more easily discern the right candidate from the wrong one, here are 10 signs your significant other will not be a good partner:
1. They Refuse To Accept Blame
It takes two people to argue. If the person you're dating blames you for everything, that's a huge red flag.
In any argument, both people should admit blame to reach a healthy resolution.
2. They Think They're Always Right
The point of a partnership is to learn from and support each other. If the person you're with refuses to entertain your point of view or constantly dismisses your opinion, let that person go.
3. They Emphasize How Many Other Options They Have
It's the worst feeling in the world to feel like one of many.
The person you're with should make you feel like one in a million. If your significant other rubs it in your face how many guys or girls they have calling them or checking them out, that's a sign of immaturity.
This person is not ready for a real relationship.
4. They Are Stingy With Affection
Do you have to beg your significant other to hold your hand in public?
Short of a mistletoe hanging over your head, is there a snowball's chance in hell of you getting an unsolicited kiss? Are you worried about tagging them in a picture on Facebook?
If so, keep it moving. The right person won't be able to get enough of you, and they will want everyone to know it.
5. They Harp On The Past
Did you legitimately F up a week ago? Are you concerned that your screw-up will be resurrected in every argument from now until the end of time?
No one is perfect, and no one can live being constantly reminded of prior shortcomings. Ditch this person if they can't let go of the past.
6. They Never Take You On Real Dates
Do all your dates consist of dinner at this person's house? Newsflash: That's not a date.
That's the person trying to be cheap and have you within easy access of their bed.
7. They Care More About Their Feelings Than Yours
If you cry, do they stop to reconsider? Do they hesitate at all or just keep trying to drive their point home?
A good partner yields at the first sign of surrender, and cares more about saving the relationship than winning the argument.
8. They Try To Isolate You From Your Friends
This may be the one and only time when Justin Bieber said it best: "But when you told me that you hated my friends, the only problem was with you and not them."
If all your friends and family are telling you this person is bad news, you might want to reconsider your unwarranted and likely unreciprocated ride-or-die loyalty.
9. They Make You Apologize Endlessly
You don't need to grovel for anyone's approval or forgiveness when you've done something minor. They're human, not a deity.
If your significant other doesn't understand the concept of forgive and forget, you're in for a long life sentence.
10. They Can Take It Or Leave It
Can your significant other's passion for you be summed up as "meh"?
If they're not absolutely crazy about you, or if they could just leave the relationship, then this isn't the right person for you, even if you're absolutely crazy about them.
Remember it's better to be single than to become another divorce statistic, and just because it's taking forever to find true love doesn't mean it's not out there.
The biggest barrier to finding the right person is the ability to leave the wrong one.
