5 Signals You Can Spot From Texting That They’re Def Flirting With You

One of the most obvious signs someone is flirting with you is if they're complimenting you on the reg. It could be as straightforward as, "Wow, you have a gorgeous smile," to something a tad more subtle like, "Good morning, beautiful!" followed by emojis, of course.

"When you’re being flirted with, they’ll typically be consistent in sending their text messages, such as every morning and every night," Spira explains. "You might receive a text that says, 'Thinking of you, and I hope the day is as gorgeous as your smile.'"

Sure, you and your friends may exchange every emoji from the eggplant to the crown on a daily basis, but when someone uses them in flirty texts, it could actually mean they're trying to amplify their message.

"They are mood modifiers that tell you how to interpret texts," Hoffman explains. "For example, if they say something that sounds direct, and then add a winky face emoji, they are kidding with you (which is one of the oldest forms of flirting). If they send anything with a kissy face emoji, that is a sure sign of a flirt."

Fran Greene, licensed clinical social worker and author of The Secret Rules of Flirting, agrees with Hoffman. "Emojis are definitely a signal to anything that feels loving, romantic," she tells Elite Daily. "[They're] just ways to show that somebody is interested in you." So, it’s safe to say the 😉 meaning from a guy or 😉 meaning from a girl is a sure sign that some major flirting is happening.

Up there with emojis, GIFs can also directly point to flirting, Hoffman says. They may seem silly, but if you think about it, there's a GIF out there for literally everything you may be feeling or thinking.

"[They're] some of the best ways to flirt with someone because you can be so specific in your search, and they capture the emotion, without saying the words," Greene explains. So, instead of brushing off the next GIF you get from a possible romantic interest as unimportant, keep in mind that it may actually be a sign they're capital-F Flirting.

When you're first starting to get to know someone via text, you may think that if they're not replying right away, they're not interested, but that's not necessarily always the case. "Even though we live in a world [where] everything is instantaneous, the texts don’t have to come back instantaneously," Greene says.

The more important thing about your texts is that the conversation flows, which can be a clear-cut signal that the person you're texting is flirting with you. "There's a very nice flow, and you never feel that you are waiting, and hoping, and wishing, and they say what they mean and they do what they say," Greene elaborates.

While this signal may be one of the more difficult ones to spot because it's not usually as direct as compliments, emojis, and GIFs, it can be the most telling. "There's no question in your mind that this person has some interest, and they are equally interested in who you are," Greene continues. Another signal to keep an eye out for? Random texts about something they know you like, like an upcoming exhibit or art show, and an invitation to attend together.

A conversation that is short and abrupt can be a bad sign. You’ll know when your crush is flirting when they keep the convo going and it’s “deeper and [more] meaningful” than just a simple “K” text, as certified counselor and dating expert Jonathan Bennett previously told Bustle.

Also, if the person you're crushing on has admitted that they don’t like texting and they still make an effort with you to keep the convo going, that’s when you’ll really know you have their interest.