The Real Reason Women Love 'Fifty Shades' Even If They Aren't Into BDSM

Like many, I took it upon myself to see "Fifty Shades Darker" this past week, and unlike most, I will openly admit I loved it.

Now, before you call me a closet freak or a supporter of male dominance and S&M, I have my reasons why I am Team Grey (or quite frankly, Team Steele).

These reasons, I believe, can somewhat explain why so many females are supporters of the "Fifty Shades" trilogy.

And no, it's not because Christian Grey is hot AF (which could really be an adequate reason).

It's also not because the glitz and the glamour of the elite Seattle life are captivating and inspirational.

It's because, in my opinion at least, Ms. Steele has successfully done what so many girls have tried to do.

Whether it be your modern day fuckboy or the good girl mesmerized by the bad boy, this phenomenon has plagued females for decades.

What phenomenon, you ask?

BELIEVING THE GIRL CAN CHANGE THE GUY.

Now, this idea can take many forms.

It can mean believing you're the one who can turn him into a one woman man.

It can also mean thinking you're the one who can turn him away from his addictions and dark past.

Sex aside (and spoiler alert), Ana successfully changes Christian in "Fifty Shades Darker," and there are multiple times throughout the movie Christian openly admits this fact.

Whether it's stating he doesn't want anyone but her, or he's willing to change and learn in order to not lose her, those lines and that recurring message is music to every girl's ears.

Who wouldn't want to hear they are the one? That someone is willing to move mountains and rewire their DNA all because of how much you mean to them? You can say you disagree with either point all you want, but somehow I find that pretty fucking hard to believe.

IT'S HUMAN NATURE TO BE WANTED.

We all need someone, and we all need that someone to need us back. It's this need to be loved that strains Ana and Christian's relationship in book/movie one, and allows it to grow in book/movie two.

I truly believe females can relate to Ana's character because many of us have been in her shoes before.

When we express we need more and open up and make ourselves vulnerable, many of us unfortunately experience the results of "Fifty Shades of Grey" and not "Fifty Shades Darker."

But that's why we feel such a connection to the arguably non-existent plot of the trilogy. Ana gives us that glimmer of hope.

Many of us have been in that situation where we are frustrated with our relationships and feel as though we should walk away but can't because we are afraid of losing this person we love so much.

Ana is strong enough to swallow her feelings and value her pride, and in the end (and maybe this is where the Hollywood effect kicks in), she ends up being with Christian after all.

I'll be the first to admit I would love to find a love like Ana and Christian's.

To find someone who will open up to you and express their weakest and darkest moments. Someone who will fly across the country just to spend time with you. Someone who would do anything to protect you, even if that means standing in front of a gun.

And most importantly, someone who needs you just as much as you need them.

That's what I call "Fifty Shades Of True Fucking Love."

This post was originally published on Unwritten.