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8 Subtle Red Flags That Tell You Your Friendship Is Totally Dead

by Jasmine Vaughn-Hall
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Friends come and go. Sadly, there isn't always a concrete way of knowing if a friendship has reached its end.

I mean, who wakes up in the morning and tallies what friendships are here to stay and which ones are done? Ain't nobody got time for that.

It's important to know where you stand in the friendship before you start dissecting a potentially dead one.

If you find you've given it your all as a great, genuine friend, there's a chance it has absolutely nothing to do with you directly.

Here are eight subtle signs your friendship may have silently buried itself.

1. It Takes Too Much Energy To Be On Good Terms

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If the friendship always seems to have arguments and fights that constantly require a "make up" period, it's bad news.

Making a friendship last shouldn't be a part-time job.

2. Tending To The Friendship Is One-Sided

This happens in so many other parts of your life, and you certainly don't need it in a friendship.

Friends are two or more people coming together under the consensus that you're both in it to win it. Remember little league? It's the same concept.

3. Nothing New Or Exciting Happens For Awhile

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Who doesn't want to experience new, dope things with their friend? If you find the friendship has just become routine, regardless of the reason, it may start to feel like dead weight.

4. You Don't Feel The Need To Check In

There's no such thing as curiosity killed the cat when it comes to touching base with your friends.

When you don't find the need to just say hi or want to catch up, it's sort of over.

5. The Bad Times Outweigh The Good

No one should negatively impact your human experience, and that includes friends. Period.

6. You Have Nothing To Talk About Anymore

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Friends are supposed to be those people who even if you haven't seen them in awhile, nothing changes when you finally do link up.

Leave the awkward silences for strangers or your crush.

7. Your Life Doesn't Feel Different Without Them

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This one may not be so subtle, but you don't realize you don't actually need something until your daily routine goes on without them, unaffected.

8. You Feel Like Something's Off In Your Gut

You can't deny the grip intuition has on your every move. If something inside is telling you a friendship is over, believe it.

No one wants to lose friends, but adulting includes delegating what's meant to be in your life and what's not. The friends who are meant to stay around for the long run will, and that's all that matters.