The ability to be independent is something that not everyone possesses. You need to be independent in order to survive in the world. Learning to support yourself is fundamental for any success you ever hope to achieve.
At the end of the day, you only have yourself to fall back on, so it is exceedingly important to be able to handle things on your own. It is all about being secure with who you are and what you believe in. It is extremely empowering knowing that you are in control of your own life and your own choices. It is much more beneficial to listen to the voice inside yourself rather than the berating opinions of others.
“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma -- which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”
We rely on others far more than it is necessary. People put their happiness in the hands of a significant other, thinking this will bring them fulfillment. This is a fatal error too many people make these days.
Do you always want to feel dependent on someone else? Of course not. Not only are you limiting yourself, you are more than likely becoming a burden to this person. We need to learn how to make decisions on our own. I understand asking your friends their opinion on a fashion decision, but do we really need to consult others on every minimal decision we have to make? Think of things that are in your best interest and choose that option.
“It is the big choices we make that set our direction. It is the smallest choices we make that get us to the destination.”
For some reason, people think it is weird to go see a movie alone. You can't talk to the person you go with anyway, so why not go by yourself? There are so many activities that can become more enjoyable by taking part in them alone. Wandering around the city you live in can clear your mind of all the clutter it has been carrying around.
People are unable to be independent for a variety of reasons, with fear at the forefront: the fear of being alone, the fear of rejection and the fear of the future. As we get older, we need to learn how to make the best decisions that allow us to live our lives the way we want to. Developing into an autonomous person can be one of the most worthwhile outcomes we can strive for ourselves.
Having the ability to be happy regardless of being in a relationship is an amazing attribute. People continue to wallow in detrimental relationships because they are scared of being on their own. Instead, they should relish in it and spend this time focusing on making themselves better people.
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing. The worst thing you can do is nothing."
There is no reason to base your life decisions on relationships with people. All relationships end at some point or another, it's reality. There is nothing you can do to change or affect that. The only thing you can do is change your perception of relationships. Instead of expecting them to make you happy by being in your life and providing enjoyment, appreciate the time spent and enjoyment since you know it will be gone.
Make decisions by and for yourself, whatever they may be. Don't ask for advice, do what you want and learn from your own mistakes. Many people are afraid to think for themselves because that involves taking responsibility for their own lives. This is just one way people become dependent. We are born alone and we die alone, so we each have to take responsibility for our lives at every step along the way.
