If you have a partner who's into the same kinks as you, thank your lucky stars. Having mismatched libidos or differing sexual desires isn't the end of the world for some couples, but isn't it wonderful to be on the same sexy page as your partner? It's especially great when the process of looking for BDSM sex toys to try is as enjoyable as the freaky, adventurous sex is. Before you head to an online vendor or book it to your local sex shop, it's important that you and your partner carve out time to discuss what BDSM looks like for you.
The process of sharing and discovering can be really beautiful and intimate. You and your partner can learn to give each other your undivided attention. To yield the best (that is, hottest) possible results, you can work together to learn how to express your fantasies and fears candidly. Plus, frank convos about enthusiastic, ongoing consent, safe words, and aftercare can force you and your partner to become better communicators.
Of course, it's hard to not get turned on as you're scrolling through different types of nipple clamps or strolling down an aisle of dildos with your lover, but here are some kinky sex toys that will, above everything else, help you prioritize playfulness in your bedroom endeavors.
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01A Versatile Whip
If you like the sting of getting whipped or the tease of getting tickled, buy this soft whip from SoftSpot to start exploring sensation play.
02An Adventure Into Anal
Believe it or not, BDSM can be extra sweet. Set the mood with these heart-shaped anal beads from Feelmore Adult Store.
03This Spicy Spreader Bar
You may be familiar with spreader bars from the 50 Shades of Grey series. Get like Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele — but unproblematic — with this bar from Overkink.
04A Bit Of Sharp Relief
Wartenberg wheels may look like medieval torture devices, but they're actually chiller than you think. When run across the skin gently, the spikes actually tickle... Use your imagination for the rest.
05This Playful Strap-On Kit
Glow-in-the-dark is fun. Pegging is fun. This one is a no-brainer.
06Some Comfortable Cuffs
When you're getting handcuffed in bed, you don't want to feel like you're actually going to the slammer. If fuzzy cuffs aren't your thing, get into these soft silicone ones.
07A Punishing Paddle
Into impact play? This paddle will help you be an unproblematic heavy hitter.
08This Riveting Cock Ring
When it comes to kinky sex, cock rings can help you stay harder for longer. Bonus freaky points for rings that vibrate, of course.
09These Basically-Instagram-Worthy Nipple Clamps
These nipple clamps from Overkink are so whimsical and pretty, you might not want to take them off.
10This Breathable Ball Gag
Ah, yes, the ball gag: a BDSM porn staple. But if you're thinking of getting one for at-home play, invest in the safest option: a breathable ball gag. Just because you're getting frisky, doesn't mean you have to be extra risky.
11A Kinky Vibe, Literally
This vibrator may not seem super controversial at first glance, but it's an app-controlled sex toy — meaning, if you so consent, your partner can tantalize you from miles away. The possibilities for edgy, sexy fun are endless.
A common misconception of BDSM is that it's an overwhelmingly hard, cold, unforgiving, or even painful way of having sex. But kinky sex can be actually be overwhelmingly fun — and there are plenty of toys to help make it a safe, exciting experience for you and your partner.
