21 Questions To Ask On A First Date That Will Reveal Their Most Authentic Self

This gives you a chance to see what little things stick out to them during the day, what makes them happy, and how good their memory actually is.

OK, This can show if your date is playful, recently single (was it a couples costume?), if they take themselves too seriously, or how into pop culture they are. Also, it provides a chance to show each other Halloween pics on Instagram, and casually drop a, "Oh, I'll follow you" if you haven't yet made a move.

Rather than pressing them on what they're reading, asking if they like to read can be a way to talk about shared interests, or your own passion.

"What's your party mood?" is a good variation too. Are you the DJ? Guarding the guac? Dancing on a table? This is a good way to see your social compatibility and assess whether or not they will dance with you in public.

This one is soul-baring. Do they sing in public? Are they comfortable on stage? Do they like to be silly? Also, if you don't like to dance in public or sing in front of others, this can provide some insight into whether or not your date likes to be in the spotlight, as well as if they'll try to pull you into it with them.

Travel can be a privilege. Not everyone has been to other countries or been on big vacations. Rather than "Where is the best place you've traveled?" or "Favorite vacation?" asking about favorite geographic landscapes can get a sense of your boo's tastes, without making someone who hasn't travelled feel excluded.

Do they want to live in the woods and be a hermit? Do they want to be on the MTV Spring Break special? Do they like hot weather or cold weather? Trees or ocean?

Family is a hot topic. Asking about frequency of talking to family can be a laid-back way of asking "What's the vibe here?" while still giving your boo an easy out.

If they give you a quick "No" and don't seem to want to talk about it more, let it rest. If they go on for an hour about their dad's Bitmoji (me), you'll learn all about their relationship to with their fam.

For me this is an opposites attract. I'm a big time just walk around, so dating another just walk around often means that the entire date is just walking around, and ends with two hungry and crabby people.

Swapping bad job stories can be a fun way to learn about someone's past, and all the hard work they've put into getting to where they are now.

This can be a way to talk about the internet, social media, and the role of technology in modern society, without asking, "So what do you feel about the internet, social media, and the role of technology in modern society?" ten minutes into a first date. Also, a good way to suss out if they can potentially fix your computer.

Note: This isn't favorite season in general. If they're into layering they may be a fall/winter boo, whereas a light fabrics bae might be a summer lover. Asking about dressing for seasons can open up the convo about the role style or clothes play in their lives.

It can help to plan for future dates if you know that your date likes to have every minute of everyday planned and finds routines comforting, or if they make it up as they go along.

Learning about how you date relates to the media can provide insight on how they think about the world or what kind of entertainment they care about.

Someone may not see themselves as "an artist" or "a carpenter" even if they make amazing things. Asking your boo if they like to make things, or what they've been making can be a cool way to hear if they're visually creative.

A good precursor to: How long have you been friends? What is their deal? Have you told them about me?

This can be good to ask before ordering. If they are a tapas and small plates fan, sharing food can be an intimate and cute way to get more comfortable around each other. If they are a strict my food kind of person, you'll probably want to know that before you reach reaching your fork over, and getting the death eyes.

If you're a Monica from Friends, you may not be able to date a Phoebe.

This can be a less intimating than the dreaded, "Tell me your story." Relating questions to the place you're both currently in can open convo about what brought you both there.

Coffee beans? Face wash? Hearing about the things your boo will splurge on can teach you a lot about them, and what matters to them.

Hearing about someone's relationship with sports will often mean hearing about their family's relationship to sports, their hometowns relationship to sports, and their own relationship to physical activities.

If you're a big tipper, and your date doesn't leave a dime, this may show some differences you feel about compensating for labor. If they're a big tipper, it may mean they've worked in food service before and try to be a compassionate costumer.

Asking questions on a first date can be a great way to learn new things about someone you're interested in. Of course, it's natural to be intimidated on a date with a new cutie, and it's good to be open-minded and patient when hearing about what makes them tick. If they're a Nervous Nelly, they may not be their chill, joking, lovey self until a couple dates in. But, no matter the questions your potential boo asks you, you already have the answer — just be yourself.