3 Sex Positions For People Who Want To Try Bondage That Will Teach You The Ropes
If you're just dipping your toes into the kinky end of the pool, you may be on the prowl for some sex positions for people who want to try bondage. Whether you've listened to Rihanna's "S&M" more times than you can count or have always been curious about incorporating some kink into your sex life, there's no shame in feeling a little intrigued by BDSM, or curious enough to want to try it out yourself. When starting to experiment with bondage, it's important to remember that diving into the kink pool doesn't need to feel intimidating. Unlike extreme sports or wacky science experiments on Youtube, these moves can actually be tried at home.
Incorporating more physicality into your sex life may call for you and your partner(s) to develop a safe word, perhaps discuss "aftercare," or engage in the types of conversations you'll need to have after an intense sexual interaction — like a verbal debriefing or some nonsexual physical contact. When trying any new sexual activity, especially those on the kinkier side, it's paramount to talk consent and boundaries before taking the plunge.
If you've talked the talk and you're ready to rumble, these three beginner bondage positions can really help you learn the ropes.
Tie Breaker
From ribbons to scarves to literal neckties — there are plenty of household materials you can use to bring some light bondage into the bedroom. If you're just starting out with bondage, *rebranding* your silk belt or knitting yarn as sexy restraints can give you a taste of BDSM, before buying special harnesses or toys.
With your scarves, try blindfolding your boo, tying your partner to the bed frame, or trying their hands to each other. When starting out, it may help to tie down one hand or one ankle, and see how that feels before moving forward with extra restraints. If you or your partner enjoy the restraint, tying both arms and legs down, or being blindfolded as you're tied down may be your speed. Like anything, start slow, check in frequently, and build as you go — there's certainly no rush to get it on.
Sitting Pretty
You and your partner(s) may already incorporate chairs or positions where someone is sitting upright into your sex life. In that case, having either the penetrating or receiving partner sitting can be a super spicy way to mix things up, and hit different erogenous zones.
To put a little bondage play into it, try having the seated partner tied down to the chair, either by hands, ankles, or a combination of the two, or both. The seated partner can have the arms straight down in restraints on the chair legs, or tied together around the back of the chair — opening their chest up. The standing partner can then strip, tease, or otherwise interact with the seated partner, and ultimately climb on top of them and have their (consensual and previously agreed upon) way.
Bend It Like Beckham
For a spicy standing up position, have a partner bend over (like they are touching their toes) and tie their hands or forearms to their feet or legs. This can be ideal for bondage in the shower or otherwise out of the bedroom.
As something like this takes some flexibility and strength, this one calls for some major communication. The bend can be a super sexy way for deep penetration but it also can potentially cause some unwanted neck cramping. Additionally, something like this can be done lying down, where a parter is on their back and stretches their legs up to their arms often called 'Happy Baby' position in yoga. Restraining your wrists to your ankles while you're on your back can allow for deep penetration with the comfort of lying down.
Trying bondage can be as low-key or intense as you and your partner(s) want it to be: From scarf blindfolds to getting tied up in the shower. If you're looking to try bondage, the first thing to do is to talk to your partner. If everyone is on board, experimenting with bondage can be a fun and sexy way to make your sex extra knotty.
